Ok, so there is this sex friend I have that I want to slowly break it off with. We meet once a week to go to a local hotel together, but she is becoming way too attached. I plan to start drawing boundaries, but I feel it is too late and that I should have told her no love from the very beginning.

I have a new sex friend that already knows what I want more clearly and there is no pressure or stress when I'm around her. As for the other woman, I want to slowly move from hotel dates to cafe dates and just do that for a month or so and break it off slowly so she doesn't freak out and do the crazy things some women do when you break up with them. I'm living in a foreign country, so I want to try to keep my life drama-free and this woman seems like possible trouble.

I have this feeling that once I turn her into just a friend or English student, she will just tell me to delete the sex video we made? I think she is alright with the video because we are more than friends now, but I just have this feeling that she is going to want me to delete it if I push her away. Has anyone had this experience before?

Actually, I don't mind deleting the video. More than anything, I'm just trying to avoid drama from her. I have read stories of men living abroad that have lost their visas due to crazy drama with women.

I read today a man died while existing his apartment block. Roof brick fell right on his head and killed him.

Should I never leave my apartment now?

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You know her better than we do. Is she throwing a tantrum at the restaurant when her dish is out of order? Is she harassing the bus driver when it comes two minutes late? Or is she behaving like an average responsible adult?

Judging from your previous posts, I'd just say you're overthinking it. I broke up with half a dozen Japanese girls, worst trouble I had was a girl unfriending me on Facebook. Just have a conversation with her, asking her what she wants from her interactions with you, and telling her you like to share fun with her but she shouldn't get too invested because you're not looking for anything long term. If she tells you any "I thought we were a couple" tell her that you're just learning to adapt to the Japanese perspective of romance, and that in America things are different.

Not sure what you're asking about the video. If she asks you to delete it you should do it, that's all.

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You are probably right about me overthinking it. I broke up with a lot of Japanese women, but they weren't emotionally attached like this one is.

I am actually married, but I have an open relationship with my wife. I was just worried about her finding out I am married somehow (she is really clever). I will just have to set up some really casual dates and distance myself from her. I will definitely have this talk with her if she starts in with the "I thought we were together or I thought you loved me" tune. Thanks man.

Yes, you are right. I am thinking too much. I will stop worrying about this shit. Thanks.

If you don't want drama to happen, don't feed it. All the girls you sleep with regularly should have a hint that you're married.

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I think going into anything like this, being that you are in an open marriage, it should be something you state before getting in to bed. While some women don't mind having casual sex, many do because they eventually get attached.

This sounds like a great idea, but could you please give me some examples (besides me wearing my wedding ring) of me hinting that I am married?

Well, I understand what you mean completely and I actually used to tell women I would hit on that I am in an open marriage, but it would scare most of them away. I realize this is probably the case in all countries, but I'm still improving my negotiation/communication skills when it comes to presenting this information to them in a successful manner. I have had a couple former sex friends that were alright with me being married, but the majority of them lost all interest once I told them. It could be due to Japanese culture, but then again people in Japan are known for either being ultra conservative or flaky cheaters.

I'm thinking about dropping hints rather than being so forward, but I'm willing to let women know at the beginning. Do you have any good advice on how I should present being married? (aside from the obvious like being confident, speaking clearly, etc.) Maybe there are certain ways to do it that will improve my chances?

If I were in your position, obviously just blurting out "I'M MARRIED BUT NOT REALLY!" is something you don't want to say. I would maybe say you are looking for fun, no strings attached. If she is okay with that then ease in to telling her your situation in a playful way.

Yes, I will go about it gradually like you mentioned.

I would mention my wife somewhere. That's gonna be a DHV by preselection and inaccessibility. Keep going with building attraction, comfort and kino. Then if you feel the girl is not gonna let you proceed (and I believe a lot of girls will be ok if your game is tight), probably she's not gonna be ok with open marriage anyway, but you could still have a routine casually mentioning how the marriage is open in a way that DHVs.

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Dude..

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Actually, last night we went to a love hotel again and she mentioned that the previous time we went, she noticed me grab the extra condom from the shelf and put it into my pocket (I use them when I'm with other women I know that don't like going to love hotels). I didn't know that she saw me do that, but as we were leaving the hotel last night, she handed me the extra condom and asked if I want to take it with me. I hesitated for a moment because I wasn't sure if she was testing me or not, but when I said ok and took the condom, she said it is ok as well.

I'm pretty sure that she knows I bang other women and is alright with it because after last night, she still wants to continue meeting up with me.