Hey

I am wondering about a situation and i am not sure how my mindset should be about this

I have 2 things that i am thinking, 1 positive, 1 negative and i am not sure wich one i should stick to..


To sum things up:

GF is at a party right now, without me. She is going with 3 girlfriends, i know one of her friends and been with her to party's before ( together with my gf)

She actually did invite me and a friend of mine to come, but only if i could actually bring that friend. (My friend couldn't go). She said this was because if i had a friend taggin a long that it wouldn't just be "her bringing her boyfriend along to a party"

She's also going to come to me and sleep over when the party is over and probably not stay till the very end

I also want to note that she has very little friends and almost no social life besides from me and my friends that i introduced her to.

95% of the time she goes out she goes along with me and my friend group, and i introduced her to all my friends because i wanted her to meet them etc.


Now here are my 2 thoughts:

The negative thought:

-She knows i'm gonna do nothing today (its sunday) and probably be bored at home. If the situation was reversed i would always invite her over, not just because she has nothing else to do at that time, but also because i enjoy the party more when she also goes with me, does she not feel that way? Does she not like it more when i am there?

I also introduce her to all my friends and want her to fit in the group, why does she not want to do the same with her friends that i don't know yet?

Does she want to get attention/seek validation from other guys ?


The positive thought:

Since i met her almost every party we went to we have been together and 90% of the time that was with my friend group, maybe she just wants a girl night out and it doesn't have to mean anything negative towards me. Maybe she will even realise after today that going to a party together with me is way more fun than with just her friends


--

Right now the negative thought is kind of overruling the positive thought in my mind (I guess that's just how i am unfortunately) And i am afraid that when she gets back from the party that this will be reflected on my mood and i don't want that.

So the reason for this topic is to kind of get some insight on what you guys think about this and what my mindset would be

And to state the obvious: Yes i am not the best at having a good mindset towards things so i am obviously jealous and kind of worried about guys hitting on her, to be honest.

Don't be that guy. Let your girl have her space to do things.

_________________
mpuaforum.proboards.com

Go do something

OP, if you're being bored at home that's on you, not her. You're the one responsible for your own entertainment. She's your girlfriend not your babysitter.

What is it with your need of being needed?

Look, if you want a successful relationship, you gotta have a life outside the relationship. It's not a matter of having more fun with/without your partner. It's simply a different kind of fun.
You're a man first and part of a relationship second. Sometimes you need blow some steam with you other male friends. Same applies to your girl.

Being a couple doesn't mean you have to forsake your individuality.

_________________
I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.