I've known this girl for 3 months now, met her at some bar. We developed a good sexual relationship and promised to keep it at that. We both have reasons not to make our relationship further than that. She was the only girl that I've been seeing lately.

Fast forward last week. We had our best sex since we met. Literally, one of my best sexual experiences of my life. It was a different feeling, not the feeling of casual sex. We don't usually kiss long, only spurts and I am usually the one who initiates kissing when we have sex, but on our last sex, she was kissing me hard from the beginning, she initiated. When she was on top of me and I was staring at her eyes, she said something like "stop staring at me, I'm falling for you" I still continue, she kissed me again. Basically we kissed hard the whole time we're having sex. Got so many bites on my lips. No need to go into more details, but that was our best sex ever.

After that, while cuddling, I asked her to come to my home and spend Thursday and Friday there. I had invited her before but she resisted. This time she promised to. We said our goodbyes to each other. She kissed me again. Got home Sunday morning, we flirted on texts before I go to sleep. I texted her Monday afternoon with this, "Girl... I miss your kisses", something like that. But she didn't respond. I waited up to Tuesday afternoon I didn't text her and she hasn't texted me either. I tried calling her Wednesday but she didn't answer. So my plans of her staying at my place for 2 days wasn't accomplished. Tried humor text her Friday, with this text "Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water, Jack fell down on top of Jill and now they have a daughter." I thought that was funny. She usually bites these kind of messages when we haven't talked for 2 days before, but now she still hasn't contacted me yet up to this time while typing this. I have this positive feeling that she was reverse gaming me, ignore me for days so that I chase her or she was avoiding me because she didn't want to go into relationship with me and there's this feeling that I'm losing her without a reason. Whenever I check, my new text messages, I was hoping that it was her.

What's wrong with this girl? I'm kinda missing her. Can't stop thinking about her lately.

another oneitis is in the ship. U only missed her pussy, just it is. Best way to avoid this kinda feelings gaming on other chicks.

Like u said, the reason is her dissappearing IMO avoid to have a relationship with you, at least you give us only this detail except how the good was Sex. My 2 cents are stop pursue her and wait her to come to you.

Seemingly you should not push for relationship.

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Sounds easy but I've been going out and meeting women this past week, I forget her when I'm out, not a single thought of her but when I go home lying on my bed alone before I go to sleep, I can't stop thinking about her. Why she's not reaching out or contacting me. It's freaking weird and it seems like there's no reason for her to suddenly be cold towards me.
I think so, but it's too shallow reason for her not to contact me, or at least inform me on why she couldn't come. We can avoid commiting for a relationship, stay FWB like before, but then, she's gone like a ninja? Sometimes, it's hard to understand women.
I dunno, I just wanna see her again, clear things and we'll see what happens.

It is all withdraval sendrome. When u were out, u think not much cuz u are busy. Keep your mind busy bro. Sometimes it is hard to understand women, maybe she is playing with you to see how u r acting in her absence. Leave it to the time at least 1week more. Try to avoid acting needy. Do not give to shit to her.

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I don't think she's playing games. Cmon, she actually made a pact and she did her part. Seems to me like really coherent girl, so cross that options.


Did you use each other to fuck only or you actually know each other at some level? Maybe her past relatioship were shit and she just wants to went?


And... Usually, women develop feelings after sex, and you tried way to hard with texting her and calling her. Thats really needy in relationships, not to mention, especially when you are only fucking. Start seeing other girls, and don't contact this particular one anymore, she'll come along. They always do.

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Who knows what's going on on her end, no point even speculating.

Just send out a 'nice' message saying you'd enjoyed your time with her and would like to get to know her better and then leave the ball in her court and move on with your life.

That's what I'm doing right now. I don't think I was being needy at all. I only shoot 2 texts (Monday & Friday afternoon) 1 call to confirm if she will come (Wednesday). Haven't tried contacting her since. I wanna see her at the same time, I avoid being needy.
I don't think I was being needy at all. Yes I wanna see her just to clear things up, because I don't like the feeling of being left hanging and I wanna continue our sexual relationship. I only tried contacting her 3 times last week. 2 texts and 1 call. I wasn't sending her barrage of texts like most do when they chase their girls. And to be honest I don't like texting.
I don't think sending nice message would work at all. That sounds like a show of neediness, asking for sympathy. I think it's better not to contact her for awhile like what others posters said. Let her try to reach me.

Thats the nature of friends with benefits. No strings attached. No strings....

FWB's come and go man. Chick gets feelings, or you get feelings, or either decides to pursue someone else seriously or casually. You dont just keep ONE FWB and sleep with just her and think thats gonna last forever. Sounds like you 2 have stronger feelings than a casual relationship and she doesnt want that.

This.

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It's just your ego talking to you Bro, wanting what you can have.

You had a little seed of a warm wet fuzzy memory. You got your little red rocket going, and thought you'd like another taste, so you reached out.

You were confronted with the mighty wall of nothing returned.

With you personal ego wounded, your mind will try to get your own sense of self worth back up to what it was when you won her the 1st time. It does this by pushing you harder to win the thing that did the damage in the first place, which, in this case, is the girl you can't have.

Chasing her any more aggressively will most certainly push her even farther away from you, wounding your ego further and making you want her even more.

Your trying to wrap your mind around the idea; "Why wouldn't she want some of this? That's fucked!" When you completely dazzled her panties off last time.

The truth is, it's likely not you. It could be any number of reasons, as Neo said, or her grandma died, she got herpes, she changed numbers due to a stalker other than you, a horrific car wreck, could be six new dicks since then.

You just don't know. What we do know is her availability is restricted, causing you to place an unrealistic value on her.

The best thing is to relax, step back and not invest any further. If she was FWB status then you have other options. Use them.

I'm sure there is other pretty Easter Eggs in your basket.

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