First post, long time follower. I've put this in relationship topic because we are practically bf / gf but she still introduces me as her 'freind'

Met this girl on a night out 4 weeks ago. Ended up going home with her. We didn't bang just lots of cuddles etc. Kept txting eachother. I fell more for her then she did for me, tried my best not to show it. I'm in a small town and new here and by meeting her I met all her freinds who all love me. Anyway long story short I asked her out on a date after feeling like she was freind zoning me. She agreed and we had a great time word got back to me from her freinds that it's the best date she been on ive stayed over at hers and weve slept together a few times now. I pretty much assumed she was now my gf. Ive been texting and showing too much interest she keeps taking me home we have great sex then the other day on a night out she was drunk and just came out with ' your such a great guy and I'm trying but I can't love you bpah blah blah. Still I went home with her that night and buy the morning it seemed all good again. I told her let's just take it easy and not lable things, she seemed to agrea. It's just a head fuck and I'm not sure how to proceed from here to make her 'fall in love'. How do I get to this stage man?? I don't want to try to hard because I know that's what drives them away yet I feel like if I don't make the effort its just all going to fizzle away. She's one of these very independent wild girls, loves to drink and party but at the same time is probably at a stage in her life where she wants to settle down with a decent guy and i get this vibe from her too. Im 32 and shes 31. I've been warned about her by both males and females that she's a wild card and tbh this makes me want her even more. How to play this game?!

Bro, first of all you should understand that not every woman is good for LTR's. Some of them are perfect at bed but suck as GF. According to your story, this chick is old enough to have responsibility for relationship but in fact she looks like party girl who bangs randomly.

In your position, i think there is lack of attention. Best thing you can do be the Alpha and let her chase you. How it could be possible? Be less available show her that you have a lot of options except her. You are giving this much more value than you give yourself. You should get that you are the prize first, afterwards you can await from others. As long as you act needy, provided she runs from you.

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Thanks for your reply. Deep down I know this is what I should do, its just so Fkin hard! She has such a busy life and so i always feel compelled to make all the steps. Although she is a 'party girl' I know from some of her friends that have approached me and told me that she really likes me and that I would be good for her as she is ready to settle down a bit. Apparently she flirts around allot but does not bang randomly, she also expressed to me how good I was in bed and I told her that is just the beginning, as personally I didn't think it was half as good as its going to get given the chance.

Anyway I'll do my best to take the advice, its just little things like I go past where she works allot, do I just change character and not pop in and say hello anymore? Do I stop opening and sending her Snapchats (we just send these as group messages for fun to the friend group, they are not personal).

All the little things, and i want to obviously come accross as a dominant male and show her that this is who I am.

*UPDATE*

Its working allready. So yesterday i decided I would not be so available after how she acted. She txt me yesterday to go for a drink with her and her freinds, I got back to her several hours later. 'hey sorry, im a little busy today' Then I get a call 'hey do you wanna come for a hike we are just leaving'. Me: nah not today soz got some business to take care off. No contact since then today she calls me: 'hey just calling because I got this email and they are looking for someone to work 2 shifts a week and use the gym for free, just thought i would let you know'

Clearly she wanted to speak to me, we chatted shit for a while and I told her I was off for a walk with another freind of mine (female). She was like ok cool speak soon. So one of the things that came up in convo was just a little joke between us she likes coffee and i like tea and the other morning she said 'im starting to like this tea in the morning'. I said ill convert you before long. SO when I spoke to her on the phone I said' i hope your keeping up with your tea routine' she laughed and said well I was thinking of getting some more tea in for when I come round. I replied with 'you know the rules'. she laughed.

Now this to me is a clear IOI? Also as an Alpha trait would it be fun / cocky / flirty for me to now initiate a txt with something like:

No Tea = No ... Ps. I like Tetleys.

Or is it too soon for me to be showing interest.


She also made sure that at the end of the covo she again said ' well I was just calling to tell you this about the Gym because I knew I would forget if I didnt'

Like she wanted me to know it was something like a freind would do ? BS