I have been dating this girl for a while now... almost a year. She started to live with me and by that I mean I rent the place and she stays.... all the time and her stuff is here etc...

We have travelled 5 times since and been to places she had never been to before as she hadn't travelled away being 25 years old. I work and so does she. The school she works at is right behind where I live.

We had some building work done on the flat and that cramped us into one room together and went to her parents in another country over Christmas. When we arrived back building work had completed so now we can live a semi normal life and can get back to regular sex as nobody round the place. I made the mistake of allowing her friend who was stuck for a place stay for a week and that turned into three. I was going through a shitty patch where I was off work and had less income and she had to pay for some things. She was with a loser for 5 years before me who always promised but never delivered. I grabbed a new post in January and my salary is good.

She told me a couple weeks back that she wanted to move out and was in tears. It turns out she is mkoving in with the friend who I let stay for a week. They used to live together in college days. She is non motivated with a poor salary and she moved out with her two days later after she told me.

Her friend cant even afford to pay the rent that they have commited themselves to for a minimum of a 6 month period. She has so little money that she cant even get to work and has called in sick two days.

We trust each other with everything but she changed her email password (not that I care because I am not controlling. she is honest and so am I) but she made me look away when she was doing something which was not like her usual character. She also changed her bank card also and a load of things that were strange for her to do. Its almost like trust has gone also. She vents to me and everything is pretty similar to before but...

... I love this girl and want nothing for the best. I had her pay nothing when she was here but now she has said she wants her own space and she will be spending 12,000 per year to do so when she wanted nothing more than to save her money etc. This is the total opposite. The friend she is living with is also very non motivated and not like her. Me and my gf play xbox together, smoke together and we love being around each other.

She hasn't really explained in full why she left. Does she owe me an explanation or should I just be the cool guy and go back to gaming her again to show her I am the same guy she fell in love with and keep all my negative comments to myself and let things unfold?

Sounds like another dick in the mix.

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seems like another cock appeared. OP u r talking about only money stuff. Maybe this made her sick in mind? Maybe she feels fuck up because when she stays with you, she pay her rent in return of fucking you. Therefore maybe she feels fucked up and want to own some space. Make empathy she has no other choice, that means u r in the control. It is like living with parents and obeying their fucking rules all the time.

I think in this relationship balance is missing. Let her go for better option and think about your actions. Unless you give her a space, she will keep eanting to move out. So it is obvious ans from the other side she is fucking desperately wants to move out.

option a~ another dick in duty
option b~ you suffocate her

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There isn't another guy. The other guy is the female friend she has moved in with in another far off town that means she has to now properly travel to work.

I'm giving her, her space. But it feels like I'm back at the dating stage and that trust isn't there between her and me from her end. It's like regression to the beginning as if we hadn't been together for almost a year.

She said that she thinks it will be good for me and her and that she felt slightly neglected and that I was maybe a little too complacent of her.

TBH I'm not feeling the love from her that I used to.

Op u have IMO 2 options, speak with her, mean the concequences be honest.
second is be a fuckin sick and say directly that you are really no longer strong attached to her and split up stuff could be work but u need to time for reconsider the relationship and freeze her out.

If she wants to be free and give her as a gift to miss you.

For the banger stuff, if her behaviours changed suddenly from out of the blue, u should open your eyes wide.

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She's prepping a break up

I'm a very logical guy with clear goals in life. Conventional wisdom would say that it is prep for a break up. But she he been fucking me with more vigorous and we have now since 3 weeks ago been going out out more than before. So in one respect, things have gone back to the freshness that our relationship used to have. It just doesn't make sense that it would be prior to a break up. If she wanted to she would have done so a while back. I know at this moment in time I should be listening and internally am a bit stubborn but don't get me wrong.... I appreciate the advice of course. She teaches and doesn't get a lot of free time. I am her free time. There's no way another male could have entered into the mix. There was an incident that had her outraged from before though that was a trigger for making her want to go. I had downloaded the happening ages go with Jennifer Laurence's photos longest every other celeb and she caused me of having child oorn and indecent image and in general wasn't happy. This was the day she decided on this. We takked that evening but the damage he been dona

Its funny how you can always tell just from a guys tone in his post everything you need to know.

The truth is man: She wants to move out and have fun with her friend but she doesn't want to break up because she may NEED YOU. You make good money and allowed her to live for FREE. Who would toss away someone that is that valuable ? That doesn't even make sense. She'll get to have the best of both worlds. She'll get to move out, party with her friend, see you sometimes, all while maintaining financial security through you. Because she knows that if she asks, you'll be there to help her out. Thats the greatest deal on earth... And you love her so you'll allow it. Lol

Any downgrade in the direction of the relationship is a negative sign. Girls that are in love with their partners try to get around them as much as possible, they try to get them to marry them, to take time off for them, to watch corny movies with them etc. etc. They're always trying to move the guy to do more. So if she's moving out.. What do you think that means?

She was with a guy for 5 years.. who did nothing for her. How long have you guys been together? Because you did everything for her and what happened?

Let a girl have the best of both world and she won't respect you. And when her respect goes out the window her love goes right along with it. And thats what has happened here.

Simple.

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"She is non motivated with a poor salary and she moved out with her two days later after she told me."

Do you really want to continue a relationship with this person? Poor salary aside.

I was with a girl (I call a girl because she was a girl trapped in a woman's body) who had 0 ambition. It's not my job to 'fix' (nor can I) her, meaning motivate her, that has to come from within. Laying in bed half the day watching Young & The Restless, going out to Whole Foods to eat, hanging with her girlfriends on weekends. She has nothing really going for her ambition-wise. No job, no intention of having a career etc..

I agree with some of the other posters, that you're her sort-of meal ticket. You meet some of her needs so why give up on a good thing.

If that's what you want and to be the sole bread earner, and beyond that be with 'dead weight' than dive in. If not, find somebody who has values more in-line with your own.


I think she's doing YOU the favour by moving out. Wish her well, and move on with your life reclaiming the energy you put into the relationship for yourself. Go do the things you want, the things that feed your soul. Don't concern yourself with finding someone new, quality people always just seem to come out of the wood work anyway.

Your role here is provider. She wants to move out, cuz wanna fuck you less at the same time take the benefits as always from you.

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Guys... there is some confusion here:

1. My gf never asks me for money.. in fact opposite.. she always pays for everything. She even gave me 700 to top of what I needed for my property lump sum payment... I am on the PLUS with expenditure (as per F J Shark's mentality)...

2. It is her FRIEND she has moved in WITH... that is the negative one who has done nothing with her life. My gf has toured a country with music, won certain awards that I cant give away as it will give away who she is... and has been on TV and in papers a lot. She is well known from where she is from.

3. She doesn't party a lot as she teaches and has to mark books. She isn't that PARTY type. in fact she has a few conditions health wise which prevent her from being able to drink a lot or function properly.

4. I am NOT her meal ticket. She doesn't even ask me for anything which is the strange thing. She is the same when she is around me now as she has always been pretty much barr a couple little things but she always wants to be close to me when she is here and when she stays round... sex is good etc.


GUYS. Please forgive me if I seem a little blaz-ehhh about what you have said. I have spent a lot of time reading up on everything out there from every game method from ruina, adam London, mystery, strauss and many other guys inc FJ shark etc.... but this I cant find an explanation to.

From the moves that have been made..... it makes little sense unless there is no logical way to explain all this. Her friend is now in financial difficulty ALREADY so that won't last..... She vents to me about her friend and everything... she hides nothing from me about the sorry state of affairs that her no good friend is in...

OTHER POINT TO NOTE: She asked if she could take the xbox with her and I am a busy guy and I train in sports so I get little time to play but she loves playing so now this occupies her evenings etc. If she was more interested in going out and getting fucked by other men and that was the way... she wouldn't pave the way with obstacles that take her time etc. She is focused on her career teaching in secondary school with troublesome kids and her workload is immense. She gets tired towards 10pm normally anyway and on weekends she is seeing me...

So you're saying that your girlfriend would rather be in a less stable situation with a girl that brings negativity and more of a financial burden in her life than to live with you?

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Is her phone face up on the table or face down? Does she seem like she doesn't want you to touch her phone? Is it always in vibe? Does she put out less? Bitch about nothing? Avoid you?

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Her lending no explanation for her moving out is creating the anxiety. That not-knowing would cause any person to throw everything into question.

I am assuming you'd already asked her. If she's unwilling to tell you why, it's tough to say the reason. Perhaps she's feeling a lack of safety around you. This is just speculation, however the changing of passwords etc could be a symbol that she's about ready to move on and doesn't want to be forthright about it perhaps due to some reprisal by you.

Just a theory. Yes, you do deserve an explanation as to why she moved out. I would begin moving on with your life, this sounds like somebody who isn't speaking their need(s) to you, and you can't force someone of course to give you reasons.