Hi Guys

Havent been on here for a while so go gently on me.

In my late 30's, met a girl abroad in Dec from a tinder type app. She's early 30's, very good looking, my type.
1st date - bit boring, 2nd date- better, 3rd - we hit it off big time.

Stayed in contact on video chat and grew closer. Brought her over to UK a couple of weeks ago for 10 days.
Really enjoyed it with her and she did too. She is caring, sweet, confident, not insecure, sexual nature, has a very mature outlook on life, funny at times. Her english is quite good and we seem to be on the same level for so many things.

She's actually divorced (she fell out of love with him as he didnt show her enough respect) but I dont feel too concerned about that. We've talked about marriage and for a guy like me, who's been single for 7 years, that's quite a thing. issue is, its a big deal for her to leave country/family - but she is seriously considering it and i do see myself living rest of life with her.

My Dilema...

I dont know/think I've ever been in love before and the problem I'm having is that I dont know if a part of me isnt fully satisfied and needs something else or if my mind is just scared to concentrate on her.

For example, at first I didnt want to shag any girls when i came back to UK, but now I am back on the apps looking for hook ups becuase she is not here and I want to have sex. And instead of having the 'one-itus' thing, I am 'open' to meeting a girl who might even be more suitable, living in same country as me. Another negative is that although she has a high sex drive, i am bit more kinky and she isnt into that shit so it leaves something a bit unsatisfied there too.
She is a bit scatty/clumsy/forgetful which has annoyed me a few times but I know it shouldnt.

When I sit down to really think about her, and I do think about her a lot, i get that good euphoric feeling of liking her again, but it is a little bit of an out of sight, out of mind thing with other girls.

I guess I am just looking for people with a bit of experience to shed some light on what Im feeling and give me someone thoughts. Sorry if I sound like a spoilt c**t who found a decent girl and continues to put his dick in every pot of honey, but I'm just a bit confused.

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Dude, if you're in your late 30s we really shouldn't have to explain that love isn't what you see in Hollywood productions.

Distance creates distance. You're a human being and you have needs. Ofcourse you're gonna look for ways of having them met.

Point is you're never gonna find a 100% match. You'll always find some things that annoy you about the other person to some degree. In the end what it all comes down to is whether or not you can "live" with these differences. Be it sexual or behavioral compatibility.

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thanks for the response. 'Older' people need help too sometimes

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It has nothing to do with age, but rather with life experience. Doesn't even have to be your own.

You don't have to take is as an offense, it wasn't intended as one.

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Marriage is big deal for you? But you want to fuck other girls too because you simply can't live without sex?

I would say you should straight out your priorities, make a list in which you will write things down ranging from most to less important.

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marriage and kids is very important to me, more important than sex on the side, but the question I am asking is whether someone in my position would be thinking this way if the girl is the right one for him.

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You're thinking to much to early, you only met her in December. You still need and have things to find about her, try to relax and have fun. I'm sure in a few month you'll know what to do.

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Fair enough. Thanks for the advice.

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