| Hey guys,
a couple of months ago, a very attractive girl, G. started to attend my dance classes (I am a dance teacher). About one month ago we started to get closer. Talking with her was nice and easy. We found plenty of common interests. At this point I had a long time gf, and I was more caring like a father (I am 15 years older than she is). Then we went for a week-end trip with G.. It was great. I felt happier than I had been for a long time. We did not have intimacy more than massage. One night, I was even the one to retreat: I thought that this time, I have to make it right, I don't want no lie and no double dating between her and me (this is what I did nearly all my life).
2 days later my gf arrived to my place. She had left her job and was moving on an invitation I made her 3 months before. Not the easiest moment to separate, but we did it. I offered her to stay at my place the time of finding something, and she is still here.
G. knew about all this and went at this point for a 2 week holiday, kind of to make her mind clear. We wrote one another every day. She obviously liked it, said she had feelings, but I was going already too far and too fast, confessing my love and my need for her.
Then she came back from her trip. We met at my class. We both had very strong emotions, that were hard to hide. After the class, we went kissing in a cafe. 2 days went like this. Without sex because we had nowhere to. Among other things, she repeated that if she runs away, I have to be patient, because she is like this; she often runs away, but then, she always comes back.
And the third day, instead of accepting my invitation to spend the we in an hotel, she said we had to stop.
Her arguments were:
1 she feels afraid
2 her father was older than her mother with the same age difference that we have and it was a fiasco
3 she hates men for things they did to her
She was very affected. Nevertheless we spent the afternoon together, she came down, started again to take my hand. I thought the crisis is past. But in the evening, she started to cry and told me we had to stop. I went away without saying a word.
My decryption is other: I took a role toward her between Mister Nice and Daddy. And none of them is sexually attractive to her. I showed too much how I care. And I was completely honest in our letters, even happy that with her I don' t play any game. All this stuff I knew, never worked for me. It is not the first time, but it seems that this lesson I did not learn.
Now I think another way ; I want her, let's do what it takes. First I have hold myself from writing her letters to get her back (however hard I wanted...). I only wrote the next day that she can still come to the classes, I am not angry at her.
If ever she comes, I think I will:
1 behave indifferent to her
2 flirt with the girls that are attracted by me
any other idea? And if she does not come? Or should I play friend and wait for the right occasion? Cutting the links is frightening, I fear to lose her.
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CHAT
