As I mentioned in my introduction post, I'm a DJ so I have a multitude of social media whether it be twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc... Recently however I followed a user called @assets (page with a lot of fat asses lol) in an attempt to pull some of their followers. My girlfriend saw this and is now upset. Things also haven't been great lately. How should I handle this?

P.S. I guess I should mention that this is somewhat of an LDR, I see her once month and she is five hours away.

If you only see eachother once a month and you still have things to fight about... I wouldn't even bother with it.

Sounds like insecurity to me.

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If you're in a LDR, trust is tested more and is more important to not be suspicious. So I can understand a chick seeing you add an ass twitter and feeling upset. My advice, is if you're going to do things that could be seen as suspicious for your career, walk her through it before hand. Even then, a LDR is not what I would advise.

Yeah she can be pretty insecure at times, anyway I can combat this, or a specific way I should handle this situation?

So should I apologize for this, or just explain it to her again, as I've explained how the process works before. Also the LDR didn't start that way and wont be that way in 6 months.

Don't game your girlfriend.

You know what the result of this will be if you don't unfollow this silly feed? She's going to start following her exes and other guys she may have a thing for ---- purely for spite ---- and use the same logic on you.

With that said I have no idea why she's your girlfriend if you see her once a month - and you can still find time to fight about something so stupid. But to each his own.

Shouldn't you keep your game up to some extent even if you are in relationship? It's just because, she fell in love with a guy who suddenly changed just because they are now exclusive. What does that do to attraction? Or, if my logic is flawed, can you elaborate more what you mean?


And I think LDR are not good either, combined with jealousy and insecurity.

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Sure. It's that actual relationships (and I'll be honest - I can't tell if this really is one or not) are based around trust and communication.

Pickup teaches a lot of guys how to get the girl - but it's not all that good (in general) at teaching them how to keep the girl.

If you're going to be in a relationship that's going to work you need to be able to communicate effectively - and not play games... This girl told you it bothered her.

Does OP make the sacrifice and just unfollow an insignificant Twitter feed because it legitimately bothers someone (for whatever reason. Insecurity or otherwise) he loves or does he blow something so stupid up into an event that's discussed at length on a pickup forum so he can give off the illusion of being slightly more dominant than he would be otherwise.

The whole alpha thing is just way over emphasized - and it becomes less important once you get the girl.

If something like this bothers you to the point you're posting on a forum about it (what do you think she'd say if she saw this, btw?) then maybe this girl isn't for you.

I'm confused to as where all the animosity came from, as I got on here to simply ask for some advice. Thanks though, I guess.

The "game" required in a relationship is nothing else than your mindstate. Tactics and routines won't do shit, because in a relationship she inevitably gets to know the real you. And that's defined by your sense of self-worth, confidence and drive.
As a man you should always have a greater purpose. Sure, she can be the second most important thing in your life. But never the first.

"Change" comes when guys fuck that principle up.

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There's no animosity at all. I'm pointing out where I think you went off the rails here.

Please make no mistake... I've been posting here for years because I've been where you are and I'm trying to help (not your exact situation).

This industry tries to drill the alpha thing into peoples' heads and so many times they'd just be better without it and if they just acted normal.

You just don't always have to put on the act. You probably wouldn't be in this problem if you had.

It's a good lesson.

Okay I see what you mean, I kind of just stumbled upon all this stuff yesterday, so that's why i was a little confused. Thanks my man.

P.S. you stole my username lol

Yes Charles, you're right about pick up's soft spot is on keeping a girl.

And R.C. I couldn't agree more that tactics and routines won't do shit (because I did this and almost, always it backfired in some way - I tried the jealousy plot which I will never do again also), mostly because when you practices them on a girl whom you're dating she already knows you, hence games only makes you seem "fake" or insecure.

But I don't think OP did this to play games intentionally to make her feel bad, or something. She already knows you are seeing other chicks and I would unfollow

Caring for a girl's feelings doesn't make less Alpha, actually, with right approach I actually believe it will make her like you even more.

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Update:

I apologized and everything is all good now, she apologized too. Hopefully the sailing will be pretty smooth for the next 6 months (time until she moves back home)