Background: this girl I've been seeing has been divorced for over a year. She's 30yrs old and I'm 25 i first met her through a friend and only carried one short conversation with her about my career as a hair stylist, resulting in her inviting me over the next day at 1am. 4 months later we started hanging out once a week and by the 3rd time I noticed she was depressed about her current living and rent situation.

The 4th time, I kknow (too late to escalate) I finally did and we ended up kissing, foreplay, etc. But heres the SITUATIONS, she explained to me that she wants me to move in with her cause I'mthe only guy she trusts, i said its a possibility and started teasing her by saying she'd have to win my trust and kept giving her like %5 to cook for me %10 for a great compliment, eventually I told her she won me over by 60% so far.

Problem: Idon't feel like taking things too fast, its only been 1 month, but I enjoy her company the most out of all the girls I've seen lately, I could see a relationship with this one with time, but she out of the blue messaged me and stated that it doesn'tseem like iI'm really interested and if Iccan'tmove in by the end of the month she's moving 3hrs away to live with her parents due to not being able to make rent.

I need advice, I feel like I'm about to lose this girl cause in fear of commuting.

So many things wrong here. The first thing to realize is that this woman is manipulating you. The second is that you aren't responsible for her current life situation.

Look OP, you're not even in a relationship with her and you don't even know if you want to live with her. She's 30 years old and can't take care of herself. Those are the types that need to live with their parents until they grow up.

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Well, Iguess you have a point, I'mtrying to look at the fact that she's got a terrible past, makes the effort to spend her own money to cook me fantastic meals and I'veonly bought her a soda. I don'tsee it as a really bad thing cause ive been needing a place to live. The problem is living with a girl that I haven't known for even a year yet, although tthere's sexual tension and I'm not that guy in the friend zone, making this move could take all that away. I've already told her I would give one month.

Think im just going to spend time with her this month and explain I'm notready to commit.

White Knight thinking. It's not your job to save her.This doesn't mean anything when it comes to her situation. Worst reason to move in with a woman unless you're living on the streets already. You should really let her go move back with her parents and not use her because you need a place to live.

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Thanks for the words of wisdom man, guess Ijust needed to be told what i was already thinking. I broke it to her, just wasn't ready to hit this level yet, I hoped for a good outcome, cause moving in with a girl on the first week worked out with my ex fiance years ago (3 yr relationship, she passed away)

This girl seems down now, so I had to get myself out and meet up with another girl I know, part of me thinks out of desperation she may be lying about having to move. But either way I'mguessing the best way to handle this is to break contact until she engages me.

No, no, and no.

Sounds like you barely know this girl. When you're ready to "settle down" and MARRY maybe you can CONSIDER moving in but until then this is a definite no. Not to mention, her asking to move in with you sounds like a definite red flag. I know too many situations where people rush into moving in together (even on this forum) then have a shit load of issues when it doesn't work out.
Don't be one of those guys.

No. Clearly and categorically no.

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