Hi everyone,

I am new to this Forum. I hope anyone here will help me find a solution to my problem or at least understand what is going on. So here we go: yesterday we argued with my girlfriend and she decided to break up (for the second time in a week) but this time she said she would not change her mind. I have to admit that I messed up, blaming her often and acting needy. So I was hurt but I knew I couldn't change anything, I acted indifferent the whole day, and as we live together we saw each other at the end of the day, she told me "let's have a good-bye sex" and believe me I don't usually see her so excited so we had sex and she was asking for even more and acted jealous like "at least you will remember me when you will f*ck the other b*****" (yeah! she thinks I have sex day in day out with different women lol). So we hanged out, smoked shisha and watched movies afterwards. We slept next to each other and when I woke up like an automatism I kissed her on the lips and she said "don't forget we broke up, you are just gonna hurt yourself".

So here I am trying to understand her crazy logic. I know I messed up and acted idiotic so I would like to have another chance before I move on as I know what were my mistakes. Anyone here have good advices or just comments?

I know from my experience with her that she reacts well when I ignore her and stay calm cause she thinks I dont love her anymore, but right now I dont know where to start and what to do, to give us another chance without looking desperate .

Stop ending the relationship then?

If you're gonna do it. You need to stick to your guns and own it. You are bluffing just to get some power craze in the relationship and now it's backfired. Having sex doesn't help things AT ALL.

Anyway. Do what most guys do that are not good with women, buy her flowers, tell her you're sorry, she will take you back, she will get all the power. you will argue again the following and will rejoin this forum next time you have argument and bluff to break up. It's a vicious circle.

Make a decision and stick to it, man.

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Well. My decision is that I want to give us another chance but dont want to be the one to ask because I would look needy and she is just waiting for that to send me to hell. I am lucky she acts confused so she isn't indifferent but I dont know where to start. We just moved in together in London, I invested a lot of money and changed job so it is not the best moment for me to end our plans.

Then stop ending it. Talk like adults and compromise.

Do you see yourself with her 10 years into the future? Babies and marriage? If not, then I would end it if I was you. If you do see yourself with all that stuff, fight for it and figure it out. No bluffing tactics. She sounds like she would of been crazy before you got into a LTR with her. This is all on you.

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I don't always say I am gonna break up. But when I do I make sure I really do it !!

PS: I second Dragula

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Sometimes, girls threaten to break up to regain power and dominance in a relationship especially if she's a masculine woman type. Goodbye sex is sex. The girl still wants your cock.

This emotional rollercoaster ride that the girl is giving you is BAD for you because you're affected by her girlie head games. If you cannot handle it, cut clean.

I have had too many goodbye sex I lost count of them. At first, I was affected by all of these girlie head games until I've learned to turn it around in my favor. How?

If girls still want your cock through 'goodbye sex' after threatening you with break ups, then
let them pay for the pleasure and go fuck ten other women.

The best things in life cost much more. Do not commodify your cock. Place a gold standard on your dick and let your penis do the communicating fer yah. So your girl wants to play head games? Let her play her childish games. But you as a man should use your cock as an adult to your advantage. Masculine maturity is very attractive to most girls who want to have fun and feel like a kid every now and then.

Let girls enjoy your masculine emotional stability by giving them freedom to throw tantrums every now and then. That would cost them though. Whether it's a slab of steak or half-a-dozen Corona beers is up to you.

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Agreed, however:
This the problem though ^ , most guys don't know how to fuck 10 women which kinda sums up my sig thread. Not everyone puts the effort into the be the elite. Just like most people are broke and obese.

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Agreed Dragula.

And the OP has to learn to have an abundance mentality instead of focusing on just one woman who wants to mess up his mind every now and then.

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