| My friends,
I need your help/adivce. So I am with this girl almost three months. When we are alone, everything is great, she shows a lot of emotion, and stuff like that. We have fun, it's not boring at all, basically it's awesome. She texts me all the time etc. etc.
The problem is when we are going somewhere with more people. Then she acts like everyone is more important than me. Couple examples: me, our friend (guy) and her are driving in a car. She is in the back, and for about an hour (the whole ride) she plays with him. I mean she only gave me a kiss on the beginning and after that she scraches him, gives him a back massage, all the time put her face near to him, and lay a face on his arm or stuff like that. And even if she lays back, and I call her (ask her a question or something) she goes back to us again, but again take her head near him, and starts to play with him. Then, after an hour of playing with him when she bites me and I don't show interest (becase I was fucking pissed). So she goes back to him. When he's gone and we drive further than she show interest in me again.
Another example: We went for a party with couple pepole. She talks with everybody but not to me, like she barely notice me so I spent like half of the party talking with a girl (she knows her, but not too much) by the bar. Her boyfriend came to us like 6 times and was pissed at her, and my girl didn't show up at all. She didn't even say anything later on. Like she didn't care.
It happened couple of times. Bascially, when we are with somebody, she shows that she doesn't care. She acts like I'm not there, even when I start to talk to her, about some funny shit, I feel like she goes right away to somebody else. I don't want her to spent the whole night with me. I don't want that neither. I wanna have fun with other people. But something is wrong, when she meets my friends for the first time, and after 3 hours of party they ask me are we in fight, because we don't talk to each other. I try have fun with her, I'm not getting angry, but she just pretend I'm not there.
Finally I couldn't handle it. On the beginning I didn't show that I care about it. Just having fun. But after a while of it, when I got drunk I was getting angry or just leaving (to drink some more), and coming back later. Couldn't pretend I don't care. Didn't tell her what's wrong. Just acting like an asshole. Finally one day we've talked, and she said she didn't notice that she acts like this and told me she is sorry and try better. And she told me that she had that talk from her ex too (He was feeling the same way like I do).
So I know I should just have fun, but it bothers me, like what the fuck. I care about her, she cares about me too, at least I think she does. When we are together by ourselves it's awesome.
What should I do? How should I act? We didn't go to any party after the talk, but I feel like a pussy, for bringing this up. Now I will feel that even if she starts to notice me she will do that only because I told her so, because I'm a pussy.
PS. Sorry for my english.
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