Wussup guys,
So I've been in a relationship now for around 10 months, and I've recently started to feel on the fence about continuing, so I'm here for some advice.
Heres a few reasons to why I feel like ending the relationship:
- I am still very young at 18, and soon I'm going to university. She is an academic year below me so she is still in college. I have a concern that I won't be able to juggle work, school and a social life if I'm still in a relationship.
- I don't feel welcomed in her family that much to be honest. Her parents are kind and stuff, but her dad literally doesn't acknowledge my presence when I'm around him, doesn't say hi or anything. Also me and my girlfriend grew up differently, she has always been spoilt and well-off, whilst in my childhood I was quite poor so I've learn to appreciate things more. This has led her to have a little bit of a spoilt brat at times and its hard to help her to understand basic things like learning not to waste food or to help your parents carry groceries from the car to the house, its just simple things like that which she lacks.
- Lately she's been gaining lots of weight (I don't want to sound like a sleaze bag), and I feel less and less attracted to her every time we see each other, like I think she's completely oblivious to the fact that she has gained weight or she's ignoring it, because she's been wearing clothing that are meant for people who keep in shape. I think the worst part is that she is always horny, but when we have sex its super awkward because she has become really heavy, and its no longer enjoyable for me. I know a lot of people say looks don't matter and what not, but I feel its still a big factor.
- She's super clingy, one time I had 90+ texts, 30+ calls and messages on all my social media profiles from her, and that was just a result of me taking a shit and leaving my phone unattended. She always keeps talking about marriage and having kids
I feel too young to discuss those types of things loooool.
That being said there are reasons that I feel like staying too:
- She is actually the nicest girl I've ever spoken to, and I guess its always nice to have someone to talk to whenever you want. I enjoy texting and calling her, it makes me happy.
- She has been admitted to counselling for anxiety and depression. There have been times when she has self-harmed and I feel like that if I leave her she may become really upset and depressed, and I don't think I can sleep well if anything bad were to happen to her because of me. I feel as if I have to look after her and make sure she's always okay, but I suppose thats every boyfriend's job?
- I feel like if we break up, I may not be able to find another girlfriend or girls to talk to, and I feel like I'll become super lonely, idk if I'm overreacting or not
she is actually quite attractive still, just not like before, I just fear I may not be able to land a girl who is as, or if not more attractive.
Thank you to everyone for reading this, it would help if any of you can give me advice. I am lost and I need different perspectives to evaluate my options.
Slugger.
CHAT
