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Hey guys, first thread.
I've been in a relationship for about year now with my dream girl.
She gets hit on by lots of guys all the time - social media, hookah bar (where she practically lives) and at work. When she tells me about the pick up attempt stories of the day I laugh with her because these chumps want what I have and cant get it
My question:
I'm with my girlfriend at a venue. Guys walk up and try to game her. She responds to them. How should I handle the situation?
Similar to the situation a thread on this board. Quoted text from the example used:
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This past Halloween, I dressed up as a five-popped-collar douchebag. I had on five shirts with five popped collars. At one point during the night, a girl managed to steal one of my shirts. Don't ask.
As I was on my way out of the venue, I saw a girl that I thought, in my drunken haze, was someone else. So I went up, gave her a huge hug, and asked her how she'd been. Then I realized that the girl wasn't who I thought she was.
And she had four dudes with her, including her boyfriend.
Oh well, fuck it. I'm already in set.
She took the opportunity to congruence-test me on the most obvious thing she could spot: my clothing.
Girl, in bitchy, accusatory tone: "I just have one question for you. Why are you wearing four shirts?"
By the way, if there's value to peacocking, it's this: congruence tests become extremely predictable.
What did I do? Did I try to logically explain my clothing and qualify myself to this girl? Did I try to bow out gracefully and say something to apologize for what I was wearing? FUCK NO. I maintained my happy fun vibe by giving her a response that, while totally logical, completely failed to answer the gist of her question.
Me: "Well, I WAS wearing FIVE shirts earlier, but she" *pointing to girl that stole my shirt earlier* "stole one of them. Hence, four shirts."
Girl laughs, test passed. I start vibing with her, and the guys, including her boyfriend, don't say a WORD. They couldn't. The girl was having fun. They didn't want to end up being the guy that fucked that up.
An example from my personal experience:
Guy One
Her and I were at a rave. Two guys in particular were relentless with trying to get with her. On the dance floor one guy tried grabbing onto her to grind with her. I grabbed her away from him and we began grinding and dancing. Each time he got near I would block off his path and hold her from behind to dance with her. She thought it was amusing, but was creeped out by him.
Guy two
Outside the rave where you could actually hear a conversation - A guy got up in her face, loudly complimenting her and saying all the things he wanted to do to her such as taking her home. Like an idiot, I stood there listening to him, by her side. He then asked if I was her boyfriend so I said yes. Then he starts only talking to me and saying im lucky, because shes so hot and (insert a million compliments here) and how I better treat her right. The problem here was that she was actually listening to him and responding.
In order for me to improve my game - How would you personally handle a guy trying to game your girl?
What's more important is HER reaction to them, physically.
That guy who was grinding on her...did she stand there awkwardly? Move away? Dance?
The guy who was talking to her, you said she was listening and responding.
It sounds to me that she is, at the very least, enjoying the attention. It sounds to me also, that this may be more the issue than the guys gaming your girl.
To be honest, for the vast majority of guys, if a woman shows CLEAR signs of not being interested, then they'll leave her alone. Your girl is obviously not showing this clearly enough.
As Eddie and Dominant said, you may want to talk to your girl.
CHAT
