Hey guys what's going on so I'm in a bit of a destined failure and a bit of a scenario so to be brief. 4 months she's leaving to Germany

Met this German girl 19 that is here as an Aupair if you don't know an Aupair pair is a domestic assistant from a foreign country working for, and living as part of, a host family. Typically, aux pairs take on a share of the family's responsibility for childcare as well as some housework, and receive a monetary allowance for personal use.

We started dating 2 months ago we met on the train 4 months ago but I never initiated anything until the 2 months because I was too busy focusing on my start up and my life to really talk to girls game and have sex. So I messed around with a bunch of my friends with benefits often it was just easier.

So decided to rekindle the encounter with the German girl we hung out the first time I didn't run game just talked about my self and learned about her. She was really impressed all that I'm doing at 20 have 2 companies etc. we really connected but then we kissed when she left we hung out for a bout 4 hours.

From there it just went up got to know each other more, talk more and started escalating making out feeling her up between then to the 5th date. The 5th date all happened really fast making out pulled over got in the car got her in the back ready to bang but then she stopped. She said what is this and I said what do u want this to be is it just sex or is it more ? She said she doesn't see herself as that type of girl to just have sex. (She has been with 2 guys only ever, one too lovey dovey and another that was 2 years older that was an asshole that she felt she needed to stay with because her family liked him.) so I said look your leaving soon we should try it out see what happens at the end of the day your leaving to go back home so let's not think about it. This girl is super sweet and really nice girl so I figured I try it. She said she's starting to like me but she's afraid she'll like me too much then she has to leave and that will stink because she had to do that with her ex.

6th date we hang out the whole day for about 10 hours we usually hang out for a long time . End of the date park in parking lot begin making out my intention having sex but as soon as I start having sex with her started to over think and got soft ....... Felt like crap and told her exactly what I was thinking.said "look I take a lot of sluts back here and girls I just don't really have convos with and for some reason I don't feel like it's right to do the same to you " she was happy about that not really disappointed but she started telling me how ever since I started hanging with her she's felt like none of the other people she's really liked she can be herself around me .

So after this fast forward date 8 she started seeming a bit distant I'm not sure what it was .... When tried to have sex with her later she said she's overthinking too much she says why did I stop having sex with other girls and taking the time for her etc.... We talked it out I told her are you sure that's what's bothering you ... If it's not let me know because I rather not waste the time . She said it is what she wants she wants to stay talking and dating .

Fast forward to next date after it went great had an awesome time and we started to try having sex again as soon as I started same shit happened for me I know it's overthinking for her the same we both said it frustrated us but we will work it out. She wants it to work out.

So fast forward we met again really late for about an hour and she seemed distant as well didn't know wat it was but said okay then from there it has been like that till today this girl is awesome we have an awesome time together etc. before that night we texted back and fourth for hours talked on phone etc.

For the record she sees me as a player. Within mid of dating I explained idk why but for some reason you aren't like the other ones etc. brought up times where I have had girls wanting to bang while I've been with her but refused because it didn't feel right. And we established the same night that we are exclusive but seeming that she has been already.


How do I get her to stop overthinking and for her to really want to stay?
Wont write too much more but want to know how can I get her to stay with her host family another year ? Or maybe go to school out here? (She does have option to stay here another year but she wants to start studying at university she wants to use her brain)
I know it's a huge commitment but I really like this girl and she really has a brain, not like the other chicks I just bang that are so stupid.
Thanks guys !

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