Hey guys,

If you were starting to get serious with one of those girls who only has guy friends, and then you find out that she is well aware that half if not more of her guy friends wants to get with her, and she is a very touchy person with all of them... is that a sign to bail? Like she listed me all of her guy friends that are into her, and then is still extremely friendly with them... she gives them all hugs, back rubs, likes to rub the back of their heads... is this normal? I don't feel threatened, I know they don't stand a chance while I'm in the picture, but what does that say about her? I feel like when I've been in this situation it makes me very uncomfortable when I know they want more than friends. 98% of her total friend base is guys and at least 50% have asked her out or she knows are into her.

Thanks all!

There's such thing as appropriate behavior when you're in a relationship. I'm guessing if you were touchy feely with other women it wouldn't make her comfortable at all, even if that is just how you are. Don't be afraid of talking to her about behavior that you find inappropriate. It doesn't mean you're insecure, it just means you have boundaries that shouldn't be crossed. If she feels that it's more important for her to keep this behavior up rather than looking at it from your perspective, that's your red flag.

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I like Jack's response. Also just as a general tip, it's a lot easier to deal with a girl who doesn't have tons of guy friends and orbiters. Most hot girls will have orbiters, but there's just something a little off about a girl with mostly guy friends, and if she's the touchy-feely type with them it can definitely be considered a red flag, because it implies she's possibly a bit of a flirt and really likes male attention. Having virtually no female friends when you're a woman is abnormal.

I know a girl just like this and she bounces around from guy to guy all the time. She's a really cool girl and attractive, but I'd never LTR her because of how touchy-feely and friendly she is with guys. It's almost like it desensitizes her to having a boyfriend because she can always get another one. And she's constantly flirting with me. There's a sexual undertone to everything. I like girls who don't act like that, personally.

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I second Jacks advice

And I also want to throw in that this is one of those things that start off as cool, but can become a problem later on in the relationship. I've been in this situation and i've seen it several times. She'll also become a lot more attractive to all her male friends once she is "Off the market". Leading them to giving her higher and stronger amounts of energy, which she will enjoy. Especially since she has male friends because she enjoys the male attention she gets from them.

As long as you keep your cool I don't think it should be a problem and you also want to take into account that this is the person you are choosing. She came in this way so overly trying to change her will lead to a lot of conflict and negative tension.

Last but not least, I've found that a woman will also do what it is you want her to do as time goes on if you don't go complaining and bitching about it. They're always monitoring and picking up on your frame. So if you aren't a fan of the male friends and you can keep your composer by not saying anything about it for long enough she will shy away from them in an attempt to make you happy. Its a subconscious thing.

For example. I'm a vegetarian and every girlfriend and girl that i've ever had since being one has become a vegetarian after a few months of being with me except one. I don't tell them to or talk about it; they just naturally/subconsciously adopt my behaviors as the leader. The only girl who didn't become one was the one girl I "tried" to talk into being one. If you chill, she will pick up on what your sub-communicating and adapt without you having to say much of anything.

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