| So basically I just moved in to a new country and i met this girl, we ended up being roommates in the same flat, we started chatting, going out like friends, and we always had an amazing time, a couple of weeks ago we kissed and then we had sex, then the next day she’s telling that she doesn’t know if she likes me or not, that we live together and she needs her space, that she doesn’t know me and that she needs to know me really well to know if she wants to be with me or not, so I told her I wasn’t going to push her into anything and that i was going to give her space, and that i didn’t wanted to change her life, but i would like to be a part of it, so I just wasn’t there that much, but every time we saw each other we kissed, sometimes a little of making out and stuff like that, but nothing too long, 2 days ago we go out to a bar with friends, we stay there after everyone left and then we went home, on the way back she told she’s not there yet but she’s happy, we came back home, made out, and then we had sex, it didn’t felt right, then she says she wants to go to her room alone, and the next day i see her and she tells me she doesn’t like it, that she likes me as a person, but she doesn’t know if she likes me for something else, she pointed out that she likes how i treat her, the details I give her, and when i hold her, but she’s not sure about the other part.
She was shaking when she talked, so i just looked at her and told her that i really like her, and that for me is not an illusion, but I get it. And then she just pointed that she wants some distance. From what I saw I can say:
1) she’s scared, because she’s been in this country for 3 years now, and this i a passing city, where basically there’s a lot of people that just get here, love it and after a couple of months that leave it, so to have a relationship with someone, is not that easy.
2) The fact that we live together and she doesn’t have her own space.
3) that everything feels rushed, and that she doesn’t know me that well, also that since she knows that I’m here she doesn’t miss me or has that urge to be with me lie it usually happens when you meet someone that blows you away.
I was giving it some thought, and the only thing that crosses my mind to do is to talk to her again, and tell her that she’s right, if something good is going to come out of this we shouldn’t push it and shouldn’t fell rushed, and at the moment just leave it that way, don’t spend so much time together, but after like 1 or 2 weeks of being cool about it, and giving her some time to chill, invite her for a coffee, or stuff like that, just spend some time together.
I really like this girl, the little time that we spend was great, and i feel that the door isn’t quite closed yet, but i don’t want to push anything, but i also don’t want to get stocked in the friend zone.
Any advice that you guys give me I would really appreciate it.
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