| Hi. Short info: So. HB7, 9 month into the relationship, it's great, we always have fun, we have our 'ups and down' moments.
Recently, in the past month or so, she's for no real reason insisting we should spend more time talking then do usual, intimate stuff... For example, yesterday we had an argument while I was waiting my turn for driving a kart, about two hours, we spend it by talking and talking, when I tried to talk about anything sexual(or tried to cuddle to her) she just gets uncomfortable, changing the subject, or avoiding it all together, when I kiss her or something, and when I want to escalate she finds a reason to stop. It's actually no big deal, but when it keeps repeating too often in the last month it really starts to annoy.
Anyway, any time she 'turns me down' I react in a non disappointing, not frustrated manner, I just act cool but overall disinterested in her and things she says. She gets sad, and few times I told her what's wrong, like I don't like her in that way, and I don't like it when she's not listening me to what I want, then all I hear are excuses and promises she will change.
And here's the kicker:
The main argument explaining her weird behavior goes something like this:"I just want to be sure when we get old, we will have something else in common then fucking, making out, and stuff like that."
I was like WTF., we do talks, basically, all our time spent together(and we are both 20s so we don't have a place of our own) is about 95% talking about things that don't consider us, rather, she talks about problems in her family and how she wants to fix it, or politics, or whatever. Am I being a pushover, or do my intentions about us seem to overt to her(This sounds evil, like all I want is to get physical with her, but when there is nothing sexual, you kind of miss it). I don't know.
Sincerely, average Joe.
Thanks for reading.
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