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Hi,
Im 26 i am in a relationship around 1 year, we have an excellent relation in all aspects exept sex.She is 24, she lost the virginity with me around 5 month ago. Since then we fuck not so often. One time or 2 in month, but she dont enojy it so much because she feel pain, soe dont enjoy the penetration or she doesnt have desire.
Today after giving her oral sex, i told her to fuck, but as usual, it was dificult, so i told her that i want to fuck her. (In nice words) After that, she start to cry and told me that its not a problem with me, its something with her but she doesnt know what is, because all her life it was difficult to fuck for her, thats because she lost the virginity at 23. She told me that she love me but she have problems with the idea of sex, and also she doesnt feel the same desire as the beggining of the relation, even if she was virgin, she had desire. But now, she is not so horny. After, in the car we star talking about different stuffs, and she told me that we have to go to some places like theatre, or another thing. So she is not planning to end the relationship(because we have a great relation).
Also (around 2 weeks ago)she told me that at the beginning i had the control of the relation and now its more equal or she has a little more control.
Please i want some advice, maybe now im beta male, and not the alpha male of the start. Or maybe its the routine of the relationship. Thanks!!
This doesn't make you BETA, your mindset does. This is a relationship so stick it out. Her not wanting sex does not instantly mess with your ALPHA status. That is all in your head. There are things that you can do to help make it more pleasurable. She may need to talk to her gynocologist or lady doctor about it. There are things that they can do to help. Maybe you'll have to just try to pleasure her without your penis and use small fingers and a lot of lube at first. She should enjoy sex and she wants to enjoy sex. You just may have to get started at it a different way than usual.
CHAT