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I've been dating a girl for almost two months and everything has been going well until now.
At first she told me she hadn't had sex since breaking up with her ex-boyfriend in August. She turned around a week later and told me that she had had sex in September/October with what used to be her best friend. She says she slept with him back about ten times in total, as at that time as she was feeling bad from the breakup in August. They both live in the same building but in different apartments.
She claims that it ended with that best friend due to him engaging in very hard anal which left her feeling bad for days, despite her telling him to stop, screaming and hitting him (I suppose could almost say rape).
After which they distanced each other and he didn't speak to her anymore. She has tried to confront him about this but he is never around to do so or when they meet keeps ignoring her.
She has refused that I visit her place in fear of me bumping into him but has now told me she will meet and talk to him before the end of the week (to at least clarify whether they are friends or not).
Should I be worried that there is more to this story ? She spends pretty much 5-6 nights per week with me, but this whole story has made me question whether he may come back and crash my relationship or whether something might still happen between the two.
There is clearly a desire to continue communicating with a guy that she proclaimed "raped" her and/or forced himself into areas of her body that was "claims" she was against. There is definitely something you are not being told, and that little feeling in your gut that made you write this post is more than likely a reflection of you trying to affirm what you already know.
The amount of days she spends with you doesn't matter too tough. Chicks get married and live with guys and still end of straying.
From my understanding, friendships rarely if ever go backwards.. If they've already broken the sexual barrier it will be easy for things to return back to where they came from again. You just have to figure out what you want. Do you want a girl who is still expressing feelings for a guy that she says raped her?
She lied once, she'll lie again. Women rarely if ever are completely honest about their sexual history. Theres nothing in it for them and too much to lose.
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