Hi I have a freeze out dilemma.

Here's the whole story, been with a girl about 6 months now and everything was fantastic. I suggested going for a weekend trip to another country and she seemed up for it. A week later I booked it and told her we were going, she was shocked but I asked her if she didn't want to go but she said she did. We had one more normal interaction where she was cold and then she froze me out for a week and a half. I was really Beta during this time and sent her more than a few unanswered messages big mistake I realise now. After 1 and half weeks we met and she said she didnt know if she wanted to meet anymore and didn't want to go on the trip. I kept my cool even though I was hurting and said "ok".

She is not going to have all the power!

The day after I ask my hot friend to post on my time line " have a nice trip and I look forward to hearing your stories " this was my test to see if she would be jealous her reaction was almost immediate. She sent me this message

" I saw your friend is excited about your trip, maybe you could invite her, or maybe your ex-girldfriend, I couldn´t have noticed that she has been liking everything you do... anyway enjoy it"

I decided not to reply and have started to freeze her out as she also has no idea who is taking the free ticket. Is this right thing to do? Opinions appreciated:-) it's been two days so far and no contact either side

send her a video of you banging another chick and make her even MORE jealous

Why do you think it's jealousy?

It could also be that she is annoyed. If my girl did that to me, i would be mad(probably not jealous)and have all the reason for get over her.

The next step is... start a real conversation. And figure out it if she is into you.

Thanks For your opinions, if i said something like this would it go down well. " im going to say this plainly, i think it should only matter what i say and do not other people. You made the decision not to come and i respected that, we can meet when i get back and talk this through. Have a nice weekend"

What do you think?

Beta stuff.

Act like everything is good, life is good and you have options. You sound like the dependent dude, who can't wait to get home and see her.

You could ask her "What do you mean?"and start a real conversation, to fish after what she thinks about this situation. When the moment is right, build positive rapport and keep the alpha frame. Do it short and clear. Ask her out when you are come home.

An update,

Sent a simple Message " what do you mean, tell me how you feel?"

She replied

I don't know how I feel. Confused? Angry? Upset... I realize I'm acting as a child right now and I'm embarassed for my previous jelous-crazy message. How's Rome?

I neither agreed or disagreed with her but instead described my time here. Saying we can talk about it when I get back

There you go, great springboard to an honest healthy conversation which is what you should have with her, as was previously mentioned. Just talk to her (in a non-needy way) about your concerns, what freaked her out so bad about the trip, etc. This is how you a healthy relationship should be. I agree also, don't game your girlfrined, just talk and fins common ground

Thanks Again guys, she wants to meet up and she's happy about it. Could anybody reccomend any good material for staying alpha in a relationship or something similar. I have no problems getting a girl, it's the keeping them that I need to improve on

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.