me and my girlfriend started going out early july shortly after she went to magaluf and upon returning i heard from one of her friends that something had happened a few days later i asked her and she told me she had lost her friend that she went with and became friends with a gorup of 3 boys she went back to there room and drank for an hour or so before returning to bed. however when she was leaving she gave them all a kiss goodbye however (as she says) one of them grabed her and started making out with her however she cannot remember if she kissed him back but is pretty certain she wouldnt have. This upset me deeply however i moved on from it however now i have realised i have zero trust for her as she is going on a night out and i am incredibly worried something like this will happen again, would you advise to just cut the relationship here and save any extra hurt or try and give her more trust now the relationship is more serious and we both actually have feelings for one another.

Another point that brought
this up is she is going back to magaluf this summer and im unsure if i should stay with her through this?

If she says she doesn't remember if she made out with one of them - she's lying (c'mon, really?)

Were you definitely boyfriend/girlfriend at the time?

Bottom line - and a good rule of thumb with relationships... Don't trust her? Don't date her.

Yeah we were only dating for like 2 weeks though which is why i let it go. but the think that gets me is she said she wouldnt break up with me for kissing someone else when my views are the polar oppisate, her relaxed view just makes me think she will treat it like she sees it??

dont overthink it. have you been able to trust her again these past 5 month?

Yes?- then she will be fine... and if she really does screw up again then you dump her- NEXT

No?- Then why are you dating her? No Trust = No Relationship.

Best,
Duke

God I used to have problems with relationships all the time. Girls cheating, blah blah blah. I know it hurts man. If ur over it tho, just keep dating her. Act like it never happened, like you don't care. Don't try to hurt her by leaving. It will come off as reaction seeking. If she does it again, leave her, then hangout at the mall and find another gf.

i'd either find a girl i could fully trust or just cheat on this girl a bunch until i didn't give a fuck about what she did. there should never be a situation where a girl cheats on you and you don't at least return the favor multiple times. that makes no sense.

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

Infantile mindset.

alpha male mindset. if you have any desire to remain in a committed relationship with a woman who has cheated on you, you are a weak, spineless man with no options. either find a new girl who would never do that, or treat this one like a friend with benefits and bang other girls on the side.

if OP and his girl were not that serious early on it's a different story. if they mutually agreed to be exclusive and she cheated he should leave or take her infidelity as a sign she's not gf-worthy and keep her around as an fb while he pursues better options. simple as that.

unless you have better advice?

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

You aren't alpha though. A beta masquerading as an 'alpha' is still just that...a beta. Pretty much the same as putting lipstick on a pig.

I can tell right now you are terribly inexperienced with women. It is encouraging, however, that you are here and can benefit from some of the more experienced board members.

Drop this alpha/beta BS. Alpha/beta stuff won't change anything for any better good.

OP: You want us to tell, that the situation is fine, right?

The thing is, you know that she has done something terrible. You can't trust her(according to research, women who are like that, won't change her personality in a relationship). She will be a big flirt, when she is not around you. You should consider leaving or just be fuckbuddies(knowing that it won't last).

Nobody deserves relationship, that you can't trust(yes, it's hard. But you can pick from soul destroying relationship or just find another girl).