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Been going out with a girl for over a year now who i met at college. She's a good girl, family orientated etc... I left college last year just gone, so it has been long distance as she has another year, she wants to move near me after.
Recently she came to visit and we were with each other for a couple of weeks, lately iv been stressed with work, my fuse is short, iv been playing xbox when shes here and been a bit of a dick tbh.
This week she was messaging me as usual, but I couldn't be f*cked to charge my phone to message her back, then i went out with some friends and just couldn't be fussed to get my phone out of my pocket to message back,
She's a lovely girl, but today i thought i better start making it up, text her a few times, shes now being a bit off with me, she's been a bit more blunt today, then she did get into conersation, however i was in this game on xbox for ages, and now she hasnt messaged back for ages and has gone out with friends, where she usually messages me non stop.
I have been a dick neglecting her tbf, but my mind is telling me that i should not keep messaging her tonight, i messaged her last, thats it. But i keep wanting to, maybe it's what shes after? maybe not. Anyone got any advice? tbh now im just thinking, shes gone out, why not just think fuck me and go with someone else. I don't usually care, but I just feel like iv lost her SPAM.
seems like you're doing things right for the most part. you have her chasing you and constantly trying to please you... they're generally happiest in that state for whatever insane reason. i'd definitely do some random acts of romance or kindness but don't go over the top. you want to be more beta in a relationship and then display signs of alpha when necessary. all alpha all the time will have her out the door because she needs reassurance and comfort and stability.
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