I am on the forums quite often and usually find what I'm looking for without having to post but I need a little help with this one.

Me and this girl knew each other for like 2 years before we started dating. Always got along very well. We are or I should say have been together officially for 4 months. She is 2 months pregnant. It was unplanned but she said she always wanted a kid so whatever I'm going with it it happened. I thought I should do the right thing and move in together and we did we were really happy to live together. Then a couple weeks ago I got her an engagement ring and proposed she said yes. I did it because I love her and because if we get married I can get her on my insurance and get the coverage she needs for the pregnancy. I figured this will happen sooner or later why not do it now. I know everything was happening very fast but based on the circumstances I thoughtit was the right thing to do. We were handling it fine surprisingly, had sex, cooked for each other, always would kiss each other before we left to work, she told me she loves me often, lots of affection just an easy going happy relationship.

But as of a week ago I noticed she stopped kissing me in the morning before work. She wouldn't text me at all unless I would text her first. She became really quiet while at home. Then I eventually texted her saying its been a little quit between us lately what's Up? She said sometimes there is nothing to talk about. I asked her if it's something I did and if she needs space. She said idk I just dont want to be bothered. I got pretty upset and got home took a shower and then went to stay the night at my moms house. The next day I texted her asking her to tell me what's going on? Long story short she said everything is going too fast, she doesn't want to get married, she mentioned I love you but I'm not in love with you, I told her I'll get my things and go stay at my moms and she did not even say anything to stop me. It sounds like everything turned upside down within a week. I really did not do anything wrong to piss her off or anything. I feel like the longer i sit here waiting for her to re think things she will distance herself further from me and completely break up. I just don't understand why she couldn't say anything or how she felt because we would of probably talked it out and worked something out. Just days ago she was happy about all this now her mood has changed 100% and she pretty much hates me and wants nothing to do with me.

I don't get it. Where do I go from here? This isn't just some chick I can walk away from, she is carrying my kid. Is it the hormones? That's pretty over the top to be hormones I think. About the only good thing she said is that shes not breaking up with me, sure feels like it though. What now? Do I just sit and wait for her to think about whatever she's thinking about? I would like to fix this somehow, she's 30 years old i hope she'll understand I wasn't trying to suffocate her I was just trying to do the things to prepare us to be a family.

How do you know it is your child?

"I feel like the longer i sit here waiting for her to re think things she will distance herself further from me and completely break up. I just don't understand why she couldn't say anything or how she felt because we would of probably talked it out and worked something out."


Tough situation, but you have to get these thoughts out of your head. Don't chase her and as you put it suffocate her. Try to find anything else to do other than sit around and run through the situation in your head over and over again. Harder said than done I'm sure, but sitting around fantasying about what could have been done is not going to help. I wish I had some other advice or some magic line. GL and hope all works out.

I have good news! A great member "cool hand luke" helped me through the whole thing and I got her back in no time. We started with a freeze out for almost a week while on facebook posting pictures of having a good time being social etc. I broke the freeze out by asking to pick up my stuff from her place she agreed. I thought shed I initiate some kind of conversation but she kept it short and I ust took my stuff. I stayed positive made her laugh a little bit and left. Kinda dissapointed but then 10 mins later she texted me. We began slowly texting and eventually meting up to see a movie. During this movie date again I stayed positive pretended like nothing happened, made her laugh and eventually when it was time to go I gave her a kiss and went home. Next day she texted me first and we began talking more.

Cool hand luke was helping me keep my head straight and helped what to say through the whole thing. I don't think I'd be able to do it without him. Turns out I became too clingy and moved things way too fast once I found out she was pregnant and it pushed her away. Too typical of a situation I should of seen it but I didint. With the proper moves of the game I have her back and she is now texting me more and chasing me. I'm not a clingy guy no more I do give affection and whatnot but at smaller doses at a time making her work for more not just getting it for doing nothing.

Again a special thanks to cool hand Luke!