So. This chick HB7(We're both 20), we've been in relationship for 7 months now, she's great, funny, smart, cute, she has a fulfilling life, everything seems to be in place, BUT...

When it comes to sexual escalation(we didn't have sex yet, but we did everything prior to that), it doesn't matter where we are, in a park, bench, bedroom... When I escalate she finds a reason to STOP. And it really gets annoying, when I grab her butt(or touch her boob, or take her clothes off) she can be like "Mm-mmm" in negative way or "No-No" meaning she doesn't want to go any further. I continue to escalate but every once in awhile she's like "stop", or "slow down"... Contradictory, I'm not even fast, I know girls take a lot to 'heat up' and I go by that rule... I mean, what's wrong?

So, we both talked about it(sex), and agreed when the time comes we both will feel it, and we should not make a 'big deal' out of it.(She's a virgin, as I am)

When we are texting, she is so sexually aggressive, her texts go like:"I would like you to fuck me so hard right now", or:"I often fantasize about us making love under the shower, bed, floor, everywhere", or even:"... I would suck you off, but then, I wouldn't allow you to cum, I would just put it inside of me, and then we will become one"...

So, over texts she is so STROG, but when we are in person, she's afraid that we will go to far or what?

Any tips? What am I doing wrong? She wants it, I know... But obviously not ready for me, does that mean I am somehow 'beta' in her eyes, or I am not man enough to deserve that kind of SPAM? Anyway, opinions on this would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks. And happy Xmas

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Hey man,
My first gf and was JUST like that and then I tried Adams trick on one of his videos. What you do is that when you feel tension or anything at all reasonably close to tension ( meaning shes trying to stop not sexual tension) you look her In the eyes and say "Its okay, you can trust me" and kiss her some more and try again. Really anything like that, it could be "babe, weve had this sexual tension for a while now...Im ready and I think you are to by all those texts you send me " ( this way it makes her comfortable and puts less pressure on the situation) then say " her look at my hands (hold hands up) if i do something you dont think you can trust me with just smack my hands and ill stop immediately" This makes her feel in control of everything even though you are but on a serious not if she slaps your hands you MUST stop otherwise your going back on your word and more importantly that rape.....

If that dosent work Adam has some great ways of getting around this in a video serious on youtube called 21convention or something like that.


Hope this helps,
Justin

From my experience (and I have zero experience being "in a relationship" and not having sex, so take that for whatever it's worth) she's gotta want it more than you do. It's a state of mind. I've seen it from both angles, many times: lost it when I've wanted it more than she did, massive success when she's wanted it more than I did. She's obviously already very attracted to you and comfortable enough to consider you her boyfriend, so you've got to seduce her without her seducing you. You've gotta be ok with not having sex. Think of your end goal shifting - your end goal is not to have sex, your end goal is to turn her on more than she's ever been turned on.

I'd recommend the Kino Escalation Ladder by Vin DiCarlo, very effective read for physical seduction. Also maybe a sparingly-used physical freeze-out. Normally I'd never freeze-out my girlfriend, but I've never made a girl my girlfriend without seducing her first. Let us know how it goes.

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