Hey gents,

I initiated contact with a girl I had gone n/c on with a few weeks ago. She was pretty cold towards me, so I told her "I'm not interested in girls who aren't interested in me." She replied with "Kinda like I'm not interested in guys who push me away." I told her why I do it, as I have some shit from my past I can't drop.

Anyways, how should I go about this? I'm not sure if I should pull more instead of pushing or what.

Kinda like this girl, have a couple posts on her haha shame shame I know, but I haven't felt grounded as a person for a couple weeks.

Get your own shit together before you try to get with this girl. If you haven't felt grounded for a couple of weeks you aren't going to be successful in this relationship. The hardest lesson I have learned recently is that you HAVE to have your inner game sparkling before any relationship is going to work out. I've likely lost someone that would have been amazing for me long term if I held off on getting involved until I was right mentally. You should do the same.

Stop behaving logically and if they aren't playing along move on don't call them out. Forget this girl, but for the next girls, be playful, get them curious, get them out, then let the chemistry take over.

her initial cold response with a shit test and you stepped right into it. twice.

She was pretty cold towards me, so I told her "I'm not interested in girls who aren't interested in me."

i used to do this all the time. it's too strong. you have the right idea in that you're trying to demonstrate higher status, but you need to be way less sensitive and serious about it. flirt with her. be fun. that's what drives girls crazy, when you treat them like little brats. getting serious with them communicates "i see you as a legitimate threat" and you don't want a girl thinking she could ever threaten you because it lowers your value. a great bit of advice on this comes from heartiste: "always carry yourself as though you have an entire harem of women devoted to you." if one of these women gets upset at you, does it really matter? nope. plenty of others. just acting like you have unlimited options will give you the correct responses in these situations.

She replied with "Kinda like I'm not interested in guys who push me away." I told her why I do it, as I have some shit from my past I can't drop.

and now we have the second blunder. never tell her why you do anything. be mysterious. and what kind of alpha male can't drop shit from his past and move on? it's not attractive to women.

my response?

girl: kinda like i'm not interested in guys who push me away...
me: ouch bro

then reframe and keep flirting with her. it's really that simple man. either get your logic out of it or be so logical that you act in such a way as to not seem logical whatsoever.

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