Ok I noticed my Short term girlfriend was acting distant and flaky (she is pregnant) so decided to do some research and came across this site where I learned she was more than likely going to break up with me, so i did some more reading about an hour ago she popped round to get bag she had left and on the way out said we need to have a long talk later, I said why cant we talk now while we are both here she brushed off the comment and said we will talk later I said to her I think I already know what its about you want to break up she said yes (even tho it destroyed me on the inside) I said ok well if thats what you want then ok I said it calmly and in a polite way I said id still like to attend the scans if that was ok she said yes and then she left.

about 10 minutes after she had left she sent me a text that said she was extremely pissed off with the way i acted it was like it didn't bother me and she has decided she doesn't want me at the scans and i only have myself to blame for the way i acted.

I replyed ok well if thats the way you feel then ok but could she get me a scan picture when she went and i would pay for it.

then got a message back saying she is blocking my number and blocking me on facebook.

my question is what would my next move be id like to work things out if possible if not id like to keep things on a civil level for the unborn child's sake.

sorry if this is the wrong place to post my head is just all over the place at the moment.

Thank you for reading and any advice or help would be amazing.

(also this is my first post so hello all)

you forgot to mention the important part why she would be pissed off with you...

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from what i can understand is she is pissed off with me because i didnt break down and get emotional when she broke up with me. (which is some thing i would of done before reading this forum and others over the course of the day. but stayed strong as advised)

You keep taking a step forward and then two steps backwards. You do the right thing by being unaffected which allows you control. Then you do something that allows her to take back the control that you do have. Don't you think it's odd that you make a breakup easy and she get's pissed off about it?

I hate that there is going to be a kid involved in this drama because she is going to use it to keep her control over you. Act like she wants or she'll keep it from you. You need to remain calm, unaffected, and logical for the kid's sake. If you get emotional about it, she will continue to use it as a tool.

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With all due respect to the great people on this forum, I think you're looking in the wrong place.

In my opinion, give her some time to chill, don't initiate any contact for a week. Any time she brings up shit about you and her, change the topic to the baby. "It didn't work out between us, and I don't mind talking about that, but I'm more worried about the baby right now. Let's agree to be civil and lets agree that the baby is better off with a dad in it's life etc."

Oh, and FFS start using condoms and don't ever knock up a girl until you've known her a long time. Don't ever trust a girl that she's on birth control unless you are far enough along that you wouldn't mind a kid. Period.

You don't understand, why does she want to break up with you?

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we did use protection but it broke

so did i act right in not showing emotions when she broke it off?

I think i understand what you mean by taking two steps back by the fact i asked to be there at the scan and showed it bothers me that i cant see the scan am very new to this as i only started reading this morning.

she said there was no spark between us any more. sex was always good and made sure she was taken care of multiple times every time if you get me also i treated her well breakfast in bed, romantic dinners ect...

I hate that there is going to be a kid involved in this drama because she is going to use it to keep her control over you.

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You did the correct thing by showing no emotions when she broke it off. Her not wanting you there is a punishment for not reacting the way that she wanted you to act.

At the end of the day, I'm not sure that she wanted to really break up with you. Pregnant women are hormonal and their emotions can be on overdrive. Today she can be blocking your calls and tomorrow she can be asking you to bring her nachos and wanting you to rub her belly. Remain unaffected, but be there for your child.

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thanks for the advice and of course ill be there for the child am a man and accept responsibility for my actions

She's been crazy and punishing you as JZ said. I don't know where you live, but research child support laws in your town. If this is a sign of things to come, you should know your rights if she pulls some crazy shit down the line. Had a friend who was with a crazy chick and had a child with her. He bought a ton of stuff for the baby for a couple of years, she got mad one day and put him on child support. The laws are such that even if you were taking care of the baby, it doesn't count so he owed an amount for the full 2 years. You may want to put yourself on child support if you aren't with her to avoid this. Also, blood test.

Bingo.

Guy not a challenge = Low testosterone in women = Low sexual desire in the boring guy

She should have served you breakfast in bed; not the other way around. You took on the role of a woman instead of a man; hence, she lost attraction. This is another classic case of gender role reversal. A girl does not need another pussy in the sheets because she already has one. Next time, do your gender role as a man.

"Hey babe. I'm hungry. Cook as some breakfast. Get your ass out of bed. Go, go, go." As long as you banged her real good, she'll gladly comply. If you sucked at bed, she won't cook you any hot meal. Let girls always reward you for banging them good. You're the prize; not them. Girls are happier that way when their man is the prize.

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I kind of agree with hellhound though

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