so met this girl at a club.. got my first lay from pua. Felt badass. As i was a uni i thought it was good idea to LTR her to save me time. Also we get along amazingly well. However after 4 months relaized she a little on the tubby side. Mix that with the fact parents arent keen on her (asian parents). Now here i am on the 9 month stage of the relationship. I got no problems with her as a person. However i dont actually see a future with her due to the facts mentioned above. I would love to keep her as a friend as we do get along well. the sexual part is starting to wither now and i can only really get excited now as im naturally a horndog.

Question is should these be reason for dumping what i consider to be the most honest likeable person i ever met in my life so far. Feel like a bit of a shitlord for leading her on this far when i knew in the 2 month mark i didnt want it to go this far...

You'll probably need to give her a reason if you've been with her for that long. But fuck, man... make one up.

You can't tell her it's cause she's fat and lacks confidence, if you want to keep her as a friend (though you'd be my personal hero if you did).

Say you want to take a break and reevaluate where you are in life or some bullshit like that.

Just say you had an awesome time with her but you feel its time for both of you to move on. And that you hope she can find someone who can give her the love and attention she deserves.

Read the lyrics to "Wild is the Wind" by Bon Jovi for cheesy inspiration for your breakup speech.

Keep us posted.

What if she decides to lose weight and she gets higher confidence? You would have thrown away a perfectly lovely girl for you.
My opinion is talk to her, tell us what you've told us ( that her weight puts you off and her low confidence is annoying). I am sure that she will either dump you ( you'll avoid drama) or work on herself ( so you get the perfect girl).
Telling the truth is the win-win situation in your case.
Don't try to make up a reason. You will sound an a-hole anyway, at least do it in an honest way. You never know. Your feedback might help her improve and be happy ( if not with you with the next guy she meets).

If her weight is the only thing about her which kills your boner, then tell her its an issue. But if you are just not that into her with or without the weight loss, do the right thing and end it sooner to save her the heartache.

i never mentioned her having low confidance..

My problem is shes white and im indian. my parents do not like her.. and honestly i cant really see a future with her.

Are you in the states? Are there really alot of indian chicks to pick up on where you are at?

If you don't like the girl, I understand, but saying that you're parents don't like her is a shitty excuse. You aren't a kid. Step up, be a man, make your own decisions, and then break it off with the chick if that's what you decide. And don't giver her some BS about "my parents don't like you". Follow Hunter's advise if you decide to break it off.

This. Stop being a retard. if that's your issue with her then tell her so she has the option of doing something about it. Tell her it's affecting your attraction towards her.