Ok met a new girl 1 month ago thru mutual friends, I am 30 she is 22 we hit it off instantly. We had sex on the 7th date after we met. Sex with her was incredible and extremely passionate. She would always text and call me every morning like 4-5 times a day. She would also always ask to see me first(she has no car and she recently migrated from Cuba)

We were going extremely fast. Beyond reasonable, But it was always her who would say it first not me. She would say that we were going to spend the rest of our life together, that she was going to be the next mother of my kids(she has no kids), Just crazy stuff. And also she was extremely jealous of everyone, even her own shadow. I was flattered and played along.

Last week she suddenly goes from Red hot to ice cold, from one day to the other. She started calling off dates and started to flake. This kind of left me stunned because she would never do that.

She stared to pull away and I started to chase her because i couldn't understand the sudden change of behavior.

I got tired of chasing her so i went NC for 2 days. She started calling me like crazy blowing up and texting my phone until I answered. When we spoke she was actually stuttering from how nervous she was from talking to me. I keep it short and said i need to go bc i was busy.

Later i texted if she wanted me to pass by so that we can go out Friday night and she goes cold again giving me curve balls and excuses that she is tired and stuff(she doesn't work because she has no work permit). I didn't even answer back.

Should i give her an ultimatum saying that when ever she is ready to date again like before to call me with a time and place if not not to bother me. or should i just play along her push and pull game.

Any advice from experts on these little push and pull games would be greatly appreciated.

Is that when the clingy needy Mr. Nice Guy showed up?
Yes she would, every single fucking girl on planet earth would do that. What makes your snowflake so special?
Common reaction, the problem is that it is almost impossible to not get invested in a girl.
We all like to think that our feelings are not out of control. After all, you don’t really even know this girl too well.

But it didn't work so....
And that was starting to work so.... you reacted caved in like a puppy and.
And tried re-qualifying your self to her profusely.

The more you text her, call her, invite her out, without any reciprocal investment on her part, the worse you feel.
The more times it happens, the more you send her a very clear message: it’s okay to treat me like shit.
You're butt hurt and a little angry but it's the right idea, just tone down the flames a little Bro.

Just a simple “Well hit me up when you’re less busy.”

Then let her let her take initiative to text you first. Let her invite you out on a date.

If she postpones or cancels two dates in a row, be willing to stop talking to her. Who needs bullshit like that.

It’s possible you might lose this girl, but if she’s acting badly, you've probably already lost her anyway.

Don't sit around with your hand on your dick either, get out there and check your other options. You can bet your ass there are other swinging cocks standing on her porch waiting their turn.

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