| Hi guys,
Lets just jump straight in. I'm 22, she is 20. I am currently working as an intern waiting to start at Uni in Edinburgh next year, well - if the referendum turns out well that is. She is a highschool dropout who is working to take A levels privately. We've been together for about 8 months now and a lot of shit has gone down.
A quick breakdown via significant events.
Met her at my bestfriend's christmas gathering, got number, texted when I was overseas on christmas vacation, met at similar party again on New Years Day, more texting and phone calls, my best friend asked her out on Valentine's day(I was in camp, because of conscription) - made out with him, she asked me out on the day after cuz she said she felt shit about it and we went for drinks- things escalated and K-close almost became an F-close, but I lost my ID.
First it was casual dating. Then it became dating.
At this stage, I was a complete tool. Because I knew I still had baggage from my previous relationship, but I fell for this girl too. And when my ex came back and talked to me, I told her about this new girl. She asked "Do you love her more than you love me?" - Being that I had been with the said ex for about 4 years before that, I said no. We are just friends and we have established that "we broke up for a reason and we aren't going back." I admit, I do miss her - but it isn't worth it wasting my life away pining over the past.
GF found out, flipped - turned violent, threw my iphone5 out of her apartment. (Note: Iphone5 can survive a 6 stories drop, just requires a quick repair of $300 to change the casing & screen so that everything is realigned.)
It just went downhill from there. Trust issues after trust issues. My phone took a dive in her pool the day after it was repaired because the battery was dead and she believed that I was texting my ex to win her back. So she started to watch the TV series Lie To Me, and suddenly she is some micro expression expert. And I watched as she terrorized her mother about her bringing a sofa stool back from an event, because her mother showed "a look of contempt".
Recently, she just became violent and started to hit/slap me. She'd ask me up to her place then throw me out at 2am in the morning because I wouldn't be able to do a shoulder massage properly, or I mess her stuff up, or some other shit like that. But the reason as to why she wants me there is for both company and sex- cuz sex is always mindblowingly good somehow.
I called it quits when she got violent again last week, I've had enough of going home with cut lips, scratch marks on my neck, bloody nose or bruises the size of grapefruits on my chest. But she is back, telling me she needs me. I care about this girl but it has come to a point where my work is affected, my parents are threatening to cut me off from the family because they believe she is a tumour that would ruin anyone connected to her.
Oh and to sweeten things up, she is kind of leading on that initial "best friend" who organized the party. We aren't best friends, this is a guy whom I spend 12 years of my life growing up with, anymore because he believes that I sabotaged his relationship with her knowing that he liked her.
Well, no shit, when he says things like "fuck off blackie" to her at a party and constantly ignoring her - I could totally tell that he was hitting on her, right?
I just feel fucked up and stressed out as hell. I dunno if I should take her back & hope things get better or just dump it.
They say relationships that lasts are the ones that are worked at to be fixed instead of just throwing it all away once it doesn't work. I did see a future with this girl, but her violence and pride - costing me a lot more shit than it is costing her.
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CHAT
