Hi guys,

THIS IS NOT A TROLL. I DON'T KNOW WHAT I HAVE TO DO TO VERIFY THAT, I CANNOT GIVE NAMES, BUT ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT THIS IS NOT A TROLL.

In 2011, I feel in love with a hb 10 I met in Turkey from Tunisia. She was very similar to me in the way she saw the world. She was ruthless and sexy, but shy. She was intelligent, but naive. She studied business and loved sex. This girl was dirty but at the same time had self respect and class. This is not a case of oneitis, she is my best friend and I love her.

I discovered myself and my drive in 2012 and everything became awesome. I became able to simplify my life and become goal orientated. I was completing my degree, I had just got my driving test, I had a hot girl, I felt I understood seduction, and had the impetuous and drive to learn about it. I was on fire. I was able to work hard with passion. The mundane was no longer the mundane. Tomorrow was my constant motivation and the moment was awesome.

Ok, this is good. You know what to do. What about 2012 worked so well in your favour? Surely it wasn't about all the stars being in alignment for the entirety of a year. I'm seeing that you were goal oriented (this is a great way to keep yourself even keeled during those rougher moments - when life throws bombs your way, which it will from time to time. I see you had one foot in the present, the other on the future (goals, aspirations etc). This would be my starting point if I was you. It worked before, and it'll certainly work again. Here's your opportunity, seize it as you had in the past.

In January 2013 this all changed. I suffered a penile injury, that caused some scaring and loss of libido and sever erectile dysfunction. I became depressed. My life became empty and meaningless. I couldn't focus on a goal because I could see no way out. Thus I continued on my life, fucked up my degree and have been doing some shity jobs since. I have a big interview tomorrow, but I know that even if I get the role, it will be a struggle to enjoy it.

Sounds like the injury was a bit of a psychological trauma of sorts for you. It's understandable you'd fall into a depression due to something that felt so catastrophic for you. Like a ship lost at sea your life became wayward and the path to success was momentarily obscured. Again, I'm seeing the inherent need to get back to yourself. Goal planning - what is you truly want in life? Dare to dream, and set these goals down. The path doesn't matter, your subconscious will take care of most of that.

I got the news this morning that my girlfriend has vaginal cancer and will go under surgery in Tunisia in the next few days. All I want to do is support her and help her and maintain a strong relationship. I know that it will be difficult with this struggle to maintain a normal power balance, and I don't want either of us to become needy.

If anyone has any literature, videos or other resources to help me to deal with this situation and still live a full life in a strong relationship, you would be literally saving my life.

Throw meditation of some sort into your goal planning (no goal is too monumental or minuscule to write down - just WRITE IT down). I suggest Focusing by Gendlin (found here http://www.focusing.org/gendlin/docs/gol_2234.html). It works tremendously well in helping people ground/center themselves. Books are fine but the real change will be experiential ('experience'). While books may lend insight if you overwhelm yourself with too many you'll lose motivation and it'll only exacerbate your current frustrations. I'm all for keeping life simple. Begin with the goal planning and take the rest from there.