This past week I started dating a friend I had a crush on in high school, and honestly wouldn't of got this far without my P.U. knowledge. In my book she is a 9, I am attracted to her both mentally and physically. But I am not able to get a make out or even if I make a joke about sex she declines with seriousness. I can go without sex for a long time but my fear is if I don't close the deal soon she will revert back to friends would be better.

As for how I treat her, we hold hands alot, she kisses me when she sees me and when she leaves and a few times between but pushes off if I go for more than 3 in a row, she seems to be very self aware not being to unsure of herself. I do show some gentlemen qualities such as holding the door and complementing her when she looks nice I'm very active so I've been taking her to fun things like racket ball, go carts, laser tag, chilling at the river with a beer. I am definally the one dragging her out on adventures and from what she has described is pretty new and she likes it.

Also a small bit of information before we started dating she was interested in a room I had for rent, since we started dating this has not changed. Also she has been in a line up of bad relationships.

What do you think is happening? I have it between she really likes me and wants to take it steady or has her doubts and doesn't want to move forward but likes how awesome I am.

Behavior speaks louder than words. If she's been in bad relationships in the past, that's the kind of guy she's going to look for in the future. Stop going for kisses if that's all you're going to get. Take some control back in the relationship shop. Get investment. Have her qualify to you until she's in Tears. Stop with sexual talk. She's not responding well which means things are getting awkward with how you're delivering the statements. Stop the cute fun dates. She's said herself that's not what she's used to aka that's not what guys who have banged her in the past have done. Go out with her to a bar, both get slightly tipsy, hook up and have sex. That's going to work better with her given her past. Note: I'm not saying to get her drunk, I'm saying to get her into a state that she more readily equates with sex and hooking up. Based on the history you've given, a wild night at the bar is more likely to lead to sex

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Everything Cdharders just said.

Also quite frankly the relationship to this point looks like something you might do with a niece or newphew, minus the beer, kissing etc. No worries, I was once a guy who took unproven girls on a bunch of adventures too.

I feel like she may be using you strictly for entertainment purposes. Move on to other girls if she continues to brush off your advances.

Get her out and escalate appropriately. When a guy with game chats her up she'll probably wind up in his bed, so the race is on - don't delay bro.