Hi guys I'm looking to get some advice and hope I'm posting in the right forum. This is my first time posting but I read a lot of the stuff here and find it useful.

So I've been seeing this girl for a week and want to make her a girlfriend without looking needy or that I'm too into her, and it's not going so well.
I've gone out with her a couple times.. The first date I encountered LMR, and the second date we slept together and got LMR again. (She lives with her brother and didn't want to make noise I guess) We spent the next day together, did a buch of stuff together and met eachithers friends. We had amazing sex and she came multiple times. Next time we met up we went for dinner to a place that she picked, which I ended up paying for, we visited some mutual friends and I drove her home and we had sex in my truck. That's the last time I saw her which was Wednesday.

We haven't had any relationship talk, at dinner she said if I wanted to just be fuck friends to let her know because she enjoys it so much but I kind of shrugged it off. We both seem to be quiet and neither of us seems to like leading. I want her as a girlfriend because I like her, but I don't want to be the one to bring it up. I actually ended things with a Spanish girl I was casually seeing so I could go after this girl.

Anyway Thursday she messages me late when I'm at work asking me to promis that I'll stay over this weekend with her and that she's staying in Friday night. I agree to stay over Saturday but say I don't know what I'm doing Friday night. She says goodnight, which seemed abrupt. She's the worst texter I've ever met, she'll take a long time to reply and not say much, so recently I've tried calling. As it turns out this weekend we didn't meet up, Friday she had some gf's party to go to and Saturday she invited me to this day event which I bailed on because it was too far. Saturday night I tried to meet up with her I msg wait a long time for reply, and when I get one I called. She says she's on her way home and I say I'd like to meet up with her and she says she'll call me when home. I wait 45 and message her what's the deal, she says she's at home, and I tell her to meet me. I don't get a reply and I msg her again at 2am which I regret.

Anyway I guess what I'm asking is some advice on how to play this to make the best if this situation. She seems to play games pretty well and I suck at them. I'm also having oneitis because I'm nervouse around her and on the phone and put way to much thought into everything. I'm not really experienced with game and my social skills generally suck so I'm trying to learn.
Thanks for reading this I know it wasn't organized well but I'm glad I wrote it down.

Update, she sent me a message saying she passed out when she got home and I'm wondering what to say back to her. Any thoughts?

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If she says she'll call then doesn't, do not text just ignore her until she gets in touch again.

Games are really easy. If you text her and she texts you back 3 hours later, your reply should take 3 hours too. If you text her 4 lines and she replies back saying 'I know! LOL xx" then write shorter texts. Only invest in her as much as she invests in you.

Also sounds like she just wants to be fuck buddies.

You shouldn't have dumped the Spanish FB.

Fuck both of them

Thanks for the advice hunter I'll do that. I was going to ignore her message but I guess there's no harm in messaging back.
I will only invest as much as she invests in me but I get the feeling like she wants me to take control. She's always asking me what do I want to do, or what do I think and I just say whatever.
I stopped banging other girls because I didn't want to look like an asshole.
I guess now I'll take a few steps back and try not to think so much about this particular girl.

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Why do you say "whatever"? Be a man and say what you want to do. Let's go to this football game, let's get drunk, I'm gonna fuck you right now, make me my favourite sandwich etc.. She wants to feel your masculinity!! "Whatever" is what girls say. Girls are indecisive. Stop being a girl. Nothing dries up a woman's vagina faster than a guy who can't make basic decisions.

Why does it make you an asshole for fucking other girls? You are MORE of an asshole for dumping the Spanish girl. What about HER feelings? Your gameplan for every new girl should be fuck WHOEVER you want until the girl pushes for monogamy and even then, you still have the option not to or postpone it if you don't feel like it.

Stop being a passive spectator and take control of your life. Where are your balls, man?

Okay I'll make more decisions from now on, thanks for the advice. I'm used to having people make them for me and I guess it's not attractive when with a girl.
How do you think I should approach her now, I was gonna wait a day or two and then ask her out again..

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Too soon to be thinking about or even ready for locking someone down. 2 dates, 1 week. Also, she wanted you to spend the weekend on her and you couldn't spend friday so she's pissed and pulling back. Added to you bailing on her.