Hey guys, i posted this on a different thread and i think this is the correct thread. I just need some advice.

Heres the original post: Another update: I sent her a long farewell email where i gave her what she wanted from me (she wanted me to be more open and know why i was the way i was and i never gave it to her, which is why she left).

She responded back , and basically as a whole, she said that i changed her life for the better and that she learned to love herself more than ever and that she thanks me but it is too late for me to give her what she wanted and that she wishes i find someone to trust and to live life.

It was quite the depressing email, and i think she is moving on. I dont know, i just need advice. I know i have the oneitis and this sucks so bad, i feel like im breaking apart.

ps. it has been 2 days since the breakup

ah man, i think you played this so well until that long farewell email. i would have done the same thing but from everything i've read you're just not supposed to give in whatsoever. go completely no-contact until she comes back around and if she doesn't you just have to move on.

it seems counter-intuitive because you'd think if you just do what she wants she'll come back, but in her mind i bet she's thinking "too late now, i was right and you know it."

and four months is way too short to give in like that... had this been a 4-year relationship your approach might have needed to be completely different. 4 months is nowhere near enough time to get fully comfortable and familiar with one another so that you as the man can break down and give her what she wants after she's pulled away.

sucks to say it but from experience i think she's gone buddy. at this stage you must no-contact her at all cost. be the man, be willing to completely walk away from it. if she texts be friendly, be the you that got her interested in the first place. but don't count on it, they tend to just switch off in a way i never can.

i'm in the same boat, just lost a 3 month relationship and trying not to buy into the oneitis as well. live and learn. the sea is plentiful.

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ey man,

I skimmed through this whole thing, but if you want to give me a shorter concise version reach out to me in my inbox and i'll be able to tailor something a little more directly at you.

Anyway..

I give this advice to another member recently and judging from what I've skimmed through you maybe able to grab a jewel or two from it.

"There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most.

Energy always follows thought.

Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity.

Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level.

I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be.

Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy.

With all due love in respect,

Peace bro."
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dont worry about it. it is not the logic with women, it is what they want.

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