Hey Guys,

Posting on here to get some advice, never been the best at game so any words of wisdom are appreciated. I've been dating a girl for over a year now and over the last few months our relationship dynamic has been changing.

While before it was both me and her being pretty clingy. Now, she is focused more on work/her internship and her friends and going out with her coworkers and less on me. What brought me to post this was tonight where we got into an argument because she wanted to sleep and get ready for work in the morning and I wanted sex.

I know my mindset right now is beta, I have always lurked these forums enough to know that. I am looking for advice/motivation/words of wisdom on how I can break that. She is going out with her friends from work tomorrow night. Normally I would probably stay in and feel jealous and worried about her doing something and wait for her. I am trying to change this so I made plans with my guy friends to go out for a drink.

I am always the one reaching out to her, texting her asking about her day, asking her to meet up with me, trying to get her to have sex with me, etc. I just feel like a total beta in this relationship right now, and am looking for ways to get back to an alpha mindset.

Thank you for reading this and your advice, I appreciate your help.

You are not supposed to be the bitch in the relationship.

The moment you invest more into the relationship than she does, then you’re already fucked and you’re starting to ‘lose’ her.

1. Stop focusing on her so much, focus on YOU.

2. Learn the word NO!

3. Buying flowers & shit, whining, begging and trying to change for a girl will never keep her around. You’ll only speed up her search for new cock.

4. Remember to be the MAN you were, she already has a pussy, she doesn't need another one.

5. Become less available.

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She started becoming more focused on work when you started behaving like the woman in the relationship. The normal relationship dynamic is going to be there whether you want it to or not. So if you become the girl she will become the guy - vice verse.

If you read your post you'll notice that it sounds like it was written by a girl that has a boyfriend who prefers hanging with his buddies than with her.

So since we all know its easier said than done you have to recognize that these feelings that you have are simply FEELINGS. And nothing more.. They mean nothing on the outside world; they only mean something to you. Just imagine if you were writing us because you had a fear of crossing the street.. And because of this fear you could never leave the city block that you live on.. What could we say to someone like that other than convince him that his odds of hitting hit by a car are slim to none when the light is red.

This LOVE thing that you are feeling is just like FEAR.. Its just an emotion. It's only plaguing you and you have to see it for what it is. Its a compulsive disorder. Its a reaction to a lose of control. Because you can't control her anymore you're freaking out, texting her first all the time just to get the reaction you want.

Theres an old expression that goes.. If you love her you have to let her go..When you truly love a girl you don't want her loving you because you want her to. You want her loving you because she wants to. By over reacting and reaching out first every time you are trying to force her to love you. Stop it or your relationship will be on the way out the door.

Going out with the guys will help a little, but if all you can do is think about her when you're out there whats the point? It'd be better to stay home so you don't bring that energy around your boys and affect their good time.

Pull back bro.. Or just break up with her. The truth may be that you're just not emotionally stable enough for a relationship. And in that case you'll leave her, better yourself and get someone better for sure.

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