I find myself in a weird cycle with this girl, where everything is going great and then I do something to step up our whatever it is we are having and she suddenly shifts the mood, goes cold on me and then after a day or two, it's all cool again. One thing is that when I notice she freaked out over smth I back down, I don't force things and I don't initiate contact.. I just wait for her to cool down and everything eventually, usually after a couple of days, goes back to normal. And that is how we escalate constantly...

The last time this happened was yesterday when we kissed for the first time, we held hands etc for most of the night and then in the morning she goes cold on me. Like she freaked out or something. And I don't know how to react. I don't wanna be too pushy, I don't wanna be to distant.. So I don't know what to do? Do you have any idea how to break out of this cycle so things can finally go to normal... Because it's obvious we like each other.

Keep in mind she's pretty awkward when it comes to socializing and doesn't have almost any experience with guys.

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I think that she has some sort of fear or trauma that makes her freak out. It must be a trust issue.
I think that she might be afraid that you might leave her or that you are not genuine etc.
My opinion is that you are already handling it the right way. She will slowly stop doing this attitude that often.

Beautiful, intelligent, emotionally stable - choose two. Sometimes only one. Sometimes 0.

Girls with emotional instabilities are best avoided.