hi, i don't know where else to post this, so if this is not the appropriate place, please move it to the right one. tnx.

a little background:
me and my gf broke up after 6 months together.
its been 18 days since the break up, but it still hurts.

she's 23, a very shy girl, and i'm 27 years old.
in our last month together we didn't have sex,
a lot of that because i was a little down since my grandfather was in the hospital (he passed away a week after we broke up).

the story of the breakup (i feel the need to share, but you can skip this long paragraph) :
at the night of the break up she came to me and was supposed to sleep the night at my place,
but i felt she was distant so i asked her what's wrong, she said nothing
but i kept pushing her and then she finally said she feels we've become friends and the attraction has gone and she doesn't know if it can be fixed.
i told her that my attraction to her exists but if her attraction to me is gone then i don't know what else to say,
then i asked her if she understands the meaning of the things she's saying and what should happen next,
and she said yes, we'll have to end our relationship.
she said she really likes my personality and asked if i'll want to remain friends, i was a little defensive and said i don't see the point in that.
she then stood up and packed her things, then i told her that this is so weird and i can't believe it,
and then she replied the sentence that bothers me the most: "that's ok, i didn't expect this to be a relationship for a wedding".
i said that my perspective over our relationship was totally the opposite, i then walked her to the door and said bye, she said bye also and gone.

fears after the breakup:
she kept me totally shocked. i didn't see it coming. our relationship did become ordinary and routine, but she never once complained to me about it,
nor showed any sign for disinterest.
i think she just loved that excitement in the beginning and the pua stuff i did on her. but once it got serious and less exciting she lost interest.

the main thing the scares me is that it will take me a lot of time to find someone i like.
she was my first real relationship at the age of 27, and i'm afraid to be alone again for a long time.
i REALLY loved to be in a relationship, to have someone that loves me back.

i know there are better girls than her, but i'm not sure i'll be able to get one. since it took me a lot of time to get her.
and the thought of restarting the journey to search one just makes me feel bad and insecure.
if someone would have promised me that in one year from now i'd be in a relationship with a girl i love, i'd be a lot more relaxed

just wanted to share... any advice is welcomed.

Man you'll be fine. I went through a situation like this 3 weeks ago and was feeling exactly like you are. First off don't panic. Your going to find a girl 10x better then this chick. Your ex sounds like a chick whose always chasing that "in love" feeling and it makes sense that she broke up with you at the 6 month mark because that's when it starts to go away. First off start gaming, not getting into a relationship with these women I mean gaming them and talking to at least 3 a day. You have to realize in order for you to go to another HEALTHY relationship you have to get over this one or else you'll be one of those people who jump from relationship to relationship. Its going to be hard though I still think about my ex from time to time but I think about all the negative bullshit she put me through, if you only think of the good you'll kill yourself. Eventually you'll find a chick that's better then this one but until then just have fun.

I was dating a girl for over three years and she just broke up with me. We were really codependent on each other (I know being codependent is very unhealthy) but I have now gained the insight to not enter a relationship for codependency, but for interdependency. Moreover there were some strategies that I used to help myself move forward.

1. I wrote in a journal about the experience of losing her. We dated for three years. It has been hard but it has almost been two months and journaling my experiences has really helped.

2. Talk to your closet friends about your situation. Only talk to those that you trust. Do not talk to any mutual friends.

3. Experiences are a double edge blade. Take this time to really work on personal development. At the same time it will suck at times because you will miss her. Understand that all our emotional responses are conditional.

Some of the things I learned from my last relationship to do better in terms of game:

1. Keep things spicy. Don't grow complacent with your relationship - remember your relationship is a vehicle to your own personal development.

2. Be friends with her stupid friends. If her friends are horrible people, don't AMOG them or NEG them too hard, just straw man neg them and leave it at that. Make her world with yours more preferable than a world with her friends. Misery loves company.

3. Evaluate her friend choices as a reflection of her character. If she's got shitty friends that are horrible human beings, then she is most likely just like them. Remember you can choose your friends but you cannot chose your family. If she's making these conscious decisions to be friends with these people, that might be her validating her own life circumstances. Anyone can have subjective fun.

Hope this finds you well, I'm right there with you in terms of the future. Just remember there's a silver ling to every experience out there, whether it is a positive or a negative experience. Best of luck.

That's all you need to hear mate:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06UnHtD1ZbY

However, it is important that after you hear it - you take massive action!!

Thanx, each reply here was helpful and made me feel a little better.
Time also helps and I'm now able to focus more on myself and the future rather than the past.

I was dreaming of us last night so sometimes your fucking mind betrays you when you least expect it.
But overall I'm good and looking for good things to come.

That video is gold. It really hits home with me.

Last night I was out with my wingman and we were opening sets. We opened a HB 9, I took over the set, gamed her while I was not centered. We went from the bar to a small breakfast diner. Great isolation, number closed her, should have KClosed her, but didn't to build anticipation.

Basically the moral of the story. This is the first girl that I have gamed to my fullest, and it worked out perfectly. (Don't judge) Now I cannot stop thinking about the pick up and her. She was absolutely amazing. Once you go out there and start gaming again and forcing yourself to pick yourself up, you'll do wonders for yourself. Moreover I am not going to stop there. I am going to keep gaming women while I continue developing the HB 9. I took about 30 girls to find her. There are a myriad of women out there that will suck - in quality. But there are only a chuck that will build your experiences as a person then as a PUA.

Get out there. It's a season of change.