So lately I have been working my ass off, girl friend texts me throughout the day, i reply 1 in 3 as im too busy. She comes over last night and shes not that horny, she tells me that earlier when she was waiting for me to finish work she had a shower and then laid on her bed for over an hour and fingered herself.

She comes over last night and I was wondering why she wasn't horny and then I said have you been fingering yourself again, she replied maybe... yeah... as though it was a good thing.

Anyway, I wanted my dick sucked and she wouldn't do it so ended up being like, fuck this im going to sleep, where i slept the other side of the bed all night and didnt cuddle up to her like she wanted.

Got up early this morning and fucked off for work, leaving her in bed without saying good bye, she texts me asking if somethings up, i said no, its fine, i was just hot last night.

Is this a bad approach? I know I'm being a bit of a dick, but seriously, she wants to hang out and watch fucking films and shitty TV, I want my dick sucked at the end of the day, and while shes getting ready to see me, just because I worked until late she started fingering herself, therefore fucked me over.

What are your thoughts guys?? How do you think I should proceed?

Your approach might work, it depends on the girl, but I personally wouldnt have done what you did. It shows you are butthurt because she didnt suck you off, and its quite passive aggressive... Not an alpha behaviour in my opinion. I think you should have been indifferent, and spent the day with her like you usually do. Then after that day, you start keeping yourself more busy and less available. Then next time you see her, be dominant and playful from the beginning and try to make her suck you off. If she doesnt suck you off again, then you make it clear in a calm and non-butthurt way that you expect to be sucked off in a relationship, that its basically one of your standards.

This is what Hunter_Foxe wrote in another thread, where the guy wasnt getting enough sex. Its not exactly about blowjobs, but you might find it relevant and helpful.

""Sex is the deepest way that two people can connect. I can't connect with someone emotionally if I can't connect with them physically." Then if she gives you bullshit about 'just using her for sex', just say that you love sex with her, sex feels great and is just another way of bringing people closer together. If she sees sex as something dirty or shameful then there is no point in taking the relationship any further. Agree with her when you say that you had sex with her too soon, but your chemistry just felt so strong that you couldn't resist your natural urges.

Tell her you can still slow the relationship down by seeing her less frequently, not by denying each other sex. So maybe just fuck her one day a week if you were seeing each other 3-4 days a week before.

Waste no time in getting rid of her if she won't have sex with you. It's such a basic human need which is fun for her too, so there's no reason for her to deny you sex unless she is up to something."

Hope this helps.

What the holy fuck makes you think you are entitled to be sucked off? Who the fuck do you think you are? She wasn't up for it so fucking get over yourself. Should every girlfriend you have suck you off because big ole you wants it and she doesn't? Would you like her to do it even though she doesn't? Selfish cunt and then to act like a big baby over it by ignoring her is just so fucking childish man.

Seems to me you're fucking crap in bed and that's why she's fingering herself. At least she knows she'll get a fucking orgasm. You need to grow up. Not everyone wants to do what YOU want.