Hey guys, Any advice or help would be appreciated.
So I've been dating a girl on my Uni course for a few months now.
We get on pretty well and have a relaxed relationship and don't really argue. She's great, kind, funny and beautiful. We text all the time but often she takes ages to reply which makes me feel ignored and unimportant to her. I don't think she is a person who is overly affectionate when saying her thoughts and feelings anyway and never really calls me special or great or anything like that. She does say she loves me fairly often though and when we see each other in person we do kiss and cuddle a lot and have sex a lot of the time but I can't help but feel she still isn't too bothered about us being together sometimes.
How can I make it so she is excited about me texting her? Am I over thinking it? How can I make us stronger?

Another problem is... guys...
I don't really like it when she talks to other guys anyway as I know what guys are like and she is a pretty girl who gets on really well with everyone which some guys may treat as an IOI. But there's a certain guy we've both known since before Uni; him and her claim to be really close for a while, me and him are just average friends. He's cheated on his current girlfriend before and is pretty much a sex pest. He pretty much sexually assaults the girls in our class (including the ones with boyfriends) but gets away with it because he does it in a fun/ cheeky way. It's really annoying because he clearly treats his and other people's relationships like a joke and the fact he is "really close" to my girlfriend and says she is "like his little sister" makes me suspicious of him. He's been round hers alone for a chat and a hot drink, although I don't think my girlfriend would cheat it's still annoying as I know what he's like with girls, hopefully as me and him are sort of friends he wouldn't even consider doing anything to her but I can't be sure. They have little inside jokes and fun fights in class and it feels like I have to compete with him for who is closer to my own girlfriend to everyone and people in our class.
Am I just being jealous? Am I over thinking it? What can I do?

I love my girlfriend and think she is incredible, how can I improve our relationship and become stronger.

Many thanks, any help appreciated.

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By becoming less needy. And Bro your showing the signs.

Yes, actually calling and texting someone every 3 minutes, and expecting an immediate reply does make you needy.

A needy man is deeply afraid that what he has to give is not enough to keep his girl.

How not to be needy.


Being late for a date – In fact, women come late to dates all the time. It’s just a date, you can be 5 minutes late. In fact, you will find out that even if you are late, many times the girl will come even later. And don’t bring flowers/gifts!

Don’t call/text more than once – You called the girl and she didn't answer? There is nothing urgent that you need to tell her. She might call you back (some girls do), and if not, you can try calling again tomorrow.

Don’t be too available – Don’t answer every call from her. If you are busy in the moment, she can wait. Show her that you have other things to do and other people to meet with. Yes, you can tell her that you are busy even if you’re not. But the better option is really to have hobbies and interesting things to do.

Meet other women – A great way to not be needy is just to have other women and other options in your life. Unless you are already in a relationship, you can date several women at a time.

React to her moves – Neediness is a relative thing. If a woman tells you that she loves you, you can say that too. But if she doesn't answer your calls, and mistreats you, so do the same. Don’t show that you want her more than she wants you.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks man. I guess I am a bit needy and do expect her world to revolve around me which will likely result in her pushing away and doing the opposite.
What should I do about not liking her talking to other guys? Sometimes even when she just mentions being out with a guy friend I feel annoyed and frustrated (I try not to show it).
And more specific what should I do with this sex pest/ close friend that we both know?

Thanks again for the help Heywood, You've helped me in the past I remember and I'm grateful dude.
If you can help again or anyone else could pitch in that would be awesome

HUNTER

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.

Your welcome

Strengthen your mental frame, you already have her, stop having doubts on retaining her.
If she's hot dudes are going to hit on her.

Just let other dudes hit on her. Accept it. Let her know you know, with a little wink or a smile. It'll show her you're not the jealous type and that you know the other dude is absolutely no threat.

If you feel like having a bit of fun with the situation, walk your cocky ass up to her and the other dude, say your hellos to both him & her, talk for 10 seconds then start making out. The other dude will think you're a Demigod and he'll stop pestering her.

If she's uncomfortable in the situation, protect if necessary, lead her away.

If he says something inappropriate, AMOG the dumb fuck. "Do you kiss your Mother with that mouth?"

Even if you’re dealing with a dude with some game, some part of him will still remember he was raised to befriend a girl, use this dynamic and defer to it if you can force it upon him. For example, you can entice all of his natural urge to “befriend her,” you can knock his dick in the dirt (LJBF) in her eyes -POWERLESS-. When she’s talking about him, or another guy, make the assumption that they’re only friends. Make her think to herself “no I don’t see him like that,” and you will strengthen her need to LJBF everyone but you.

Hope this helps.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks again dude.
Strengthening my mental frame is harder than I think. I can't help but assume she's going to cheat or disrespect me in some way, but I have no reason to think this. She wouldn't even sleep with me after a couple of dates until I asked her to officially be my girlfriend and as far as I'm aware she's never cheated before and doesn't agree with this sexpest and his cheating antics.

I can't help but think everyone is a threat, where do I draw the line of being cool, calm and collected? Do I headbutt a guy for touching her lower back? How do I show I will protect her and I am in charge in a positive way?

And I suck at AMOG-ing, I've never really had to practice it. I'm a fairly big guy so guys who come to talk to girls I'm with are normally a bit intimidated anyway and I normally just give them a strong handshake and keep a confident image about me to show I'm still in charge. Got any cool AMOG-ing tips?
Is that walking up and making out not a dick move? What if she thinks I'm being a dick in front of this person and turns me down?

Dude, the LJBF-ing everyone thing is so advanced haha. I will never be able to get my head around that.

Thanks a bunch for helping Heywood. Any advice is appreciated, man.

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.