I've addressed this in the past but my gf treats me like a captain save-a-hoe ..
I never can talk to her about my problems .. But she always comes to me to unload leaves or hangs up and goes to hang out w other people when I make it all better but when I have issues she makes it about her or just ignores what I say in a way...and I understand that women are VERY selfish communicators but she's so SELFISH I have to talk to other women about my problems who are just friends and I have no sexual interest in or rapport with or HER girlfriends which I know is a BIG no no ( and she considers emotionally cheating) and I end up losing a potential friend or a friend's interest.
How can I make her a better listener...

she sounds like a controlling crazy one, so not really healthy relationship material

ehm lets make it clear:
She wants to talk to you about her problems OR she wants to get her problems solved?
You want to talk about your problems OR you want to get your problems solved?

If underlined is the case, just to make sure, are you a man or a woman?

Men talk about their problems...I've never had a gf before but that's what it feels she should be doing...why should I keep my shit bottled up?

I misread what you said I know she doesn't want to solve big problems but I ask her small shit and keep it light just to boost her SelfEsteem but sometimes I need someone to talk to and legit emotional support just like any human...so both that doesn't make me less masculine

Isn't that like like Stevie Wonder giving Ray Charles driving advice?

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