To keep it short my gf of 5 years got upset because I refused to delete some music videos she didn't like from my phone.

She used to be fit (go-go dancer) and down with having threesomes with other girls. But now she gained some weight and is really insecure, to the point where even slutty music videos bother her.

I told her ever since she got fat she's been really controlling and insecure. She started crying and said she can't stand being hurt anymore and wants it to be over. Although I don't think she's serious. She typically says that when she doesn't get her way and I typically cave.

To make things more complicated we're engaged and she's been pushing to get married. We were planning on moving in together. And I just found out I have to move out of my current place in 4 weeks, so I don't have a lot of time. I haven't talked to her in 3 days and I'm not sure how to proceed.

Music videos? Really?

She sounds controlling and bat shit crazy dude. They're fucking music videos.

You gotta deal with that shit now... before you move in and certainly before getting married.

Why are you even engaged, or talking about moving in together? She sounds fat and horrible, based on your post.

I needed to burn some extra calories at the gym last night, so I set a fat girl on fire!

Anyway, Bro I'm confused?
You think she's fat and gross.
You intend to follow through with this horrible idea?

You don't have to put up with the chub, or the demands, she's easily replaceable Bro!

She needs to be aware of this.

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I should of pointed or that she actually isn't fat, she just thinks she is in her head. She's maybe 10lbs over what she used to be when she danced at night clubs. Overall she's pretty hot. I guess I'm just looking for a way to proper resolve this and not come of as a wuss. Not really sure how to start the dialog either.

You call her fat (when she isn't fat) and she wants to delete your music videos.

Which came first? Calling her fat or her wanting to delete your music videos?

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Her wanting to delete the videos. Although it looked like she was going to drop it until I called her fat.

10 Lbs is not that big of deal, women...and men tend to put on a little blubber when they get "comfortable".

If she suddenly got back to super mondo trim status, changing up her wardrobe, and becoming distant at the same time, you'd be counting your days back to the single life.

Have you subjected your own sorry shit to the same scrutiny you've given your girlfriend’s. How you looking? Like you've traded that six-pack for a pony keg?

Your girlfriend’s weight is among the most delicate of conversational topics, calling her out like that isn't going to help SHIT!

It would be like her saying "It looks like your dick is getting smaller".

Instead of playing the "pissing match".

Her wanting to delete the videos, was just a minor shit test anyway, should have just ignored it, or even a simple "No" would have worked just fine.

Why not LEAD, like a man, tackling it, with healthier lifestyle choices the two of you can make together.

Be like "Hey we've got a wedding to think about, let's both get back in shape for it."

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Something doesn't add up here. 10lbs is not the difference between being slim and fat.

Don't get married dude, it will ruin your life if it's with a girl this controlling. Her behaviour is mental illness terrority.

Run away, now, as fast as you possibly can. She will double in size if you delete the videos and go ahead with the wedding.

Hahaha... "You know ever since you got fat you've been a big pain in the ass." Can totally see that argument ending well...