Hey guys,

I need your help with a girl I am currently dating. We met some time ago and I cold approached her in a club. We don’t have a common friend circle or other communalities before. Just a complete natural approach from my side. I dated her and we had a nice time in bed and out of bed like spending the day hiking and such. She tells me how much she likes me and how lucky she is that she found me … Shes also afraid that I would leave her. Her last words when we left were: promise me you wont leave me ... However now I am receiving some signs form her and I need your opinion about it.

Now shes on a trip around Europe and shes coming back on Sunday evening. So we haven’t seen each other for about two weeks. We have been typing via SPAM ever since and the contact isn’t like if she would be around …
So via SPAM I get some messages like:
HB: Will you still be my friend if we weren't anything else?
Hejsan: Bla Bla I like to keep good souls close to me.

And …

HB: No I'm more worried because I wish I felt closer to you (emotionaly I guess)

So she keeps telling me that I behave somewhat distant and that I seem like closed up. That’s still some sticky point of mine. Also she tells me its nice to have someone around who pretends to listen to her. I don’t like to pretend oO? What would your reaction to this be and how should I counter those signs? I want to fuck her brains out anyway but I guess that won’t solve the original reason.

Thanks for your opinion,
Hejsan

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How to react to those?

I didn't took them so seriosly and made a big discussion out of it. However I steer the conversation to a similar topic afterwards and put my view to it. I think when I want to be closer later on in a relationship I have to be the strong rock for her emotions to take a hold on. I dont want to take her unseriously at all but I dont want to be reactionless at all ...

Something that could be also mentioned with that girl is that she was kinda afraid to loose me in that sense of a friend and stuff. Thus she keeps saying how much a normal friend conversation and beeing best friends is important for her. I dont know if she does it with every guy she is dating and then friendzones him. I think she kinda fun but I coudlnt think of her anything more than some girl for social proof and some pivot if I wouldnt date her anymore.

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