Hey all,

I'm currently in a committed relationship (1 year +) & everything has being going OK.
Sexually, I've had no problems making her cum & I always ensure that she's taken care of before I am.
Please look away now if you don't want the gross details!...
Recently (last 2-3 months) we've had to abstain or lessen the amount of sex as my gf has had some 'issues' down there... the downside being that she's become a bit tighter and it can be quite sore for her when we have sex.
She thinks she's starting to resent me a little for the pain and last night suggested she get a dildo to help as a pre-cursor to the main event.
My reaction wasn't the most mature but it was to question whether that was the real reason for it.
I'm an average guy and she was looking a dildos that were 2"+ larger than me and I guess it made me a little insecure. I also asked her whether she planned on using it by herself and she said "No, that's gross" but she said she might like to keep it even after she's 100% better if we both enjoy having it around.
I tried to show things from my point of view (e.g. if I got a penis sleeve) and she didn't like it when I put it like that.

I guess I'm in a weird headspace right now. She's insisting there's no other reason for it but it seems a bit odd to me. Can I get your thoughts & advice on this?
Have your girlfriends wanted you to use dildos on them before?
Am I right to react like this? Do you think there's something 'off' about this?

Thanks!!
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Sounds like your girlfriend is dealing with a painful medical situation and she needs the support of her boyfriend. I'd get her any dildo that would make her feel a bit better about the situation. I'd suggest doing whatever you can to support your girl during this tough time.

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Thanks johngoldman - appreciate your input.
Maybe I am being selfish!

Update: since I had the discussion recently with my girlfriend she has been away to visit family (already planned for a month) and she has been sending me lots of messages and telling me she loves me a huge amount so not quite sure if she has re-thought things but it hasn't come up since.

I would REALLY appreciate other perspectives & advice... especially if you've been in a similar situation?
Thanks!!

Guys... struggling with how I'm going to close this out!
Any advice?

I think you are being quite insecure about this. Even if it because of her medical condition, I dont think there is anything wrong with her having a dildo, or even masturbating on her own. I definitely think you overreacted, but thats just my personal opinion.

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c'mon really? mentioning dildo is a gross detail? well that explains your insecurity

It's not really an issue if she has it for herself...
My concern is that she wants me to use it on her as a precursor ... not something I want to sign up for just any time I want to get it on.
Anyway... the update is that she hasn't brought it up since. I think she's testing boundaries by bringing stuff like this up.
I don't know if you'd categorise it as a shit test but she's throwing some out there.

To the last commenter, not sure how you think me giving people a heads up displays any insecurity

You are being crazy insecure...even if she has it so she can masturbate why do you care? it doesnt make you any less of a man ky friend. My girl has one and i love using it on her and watching her use it on herself. you dont have to feel threatened, a dildo cant love her and shes not leaving you for a plastic toy. dont make it weird by starting fights about it...how would u feel if she bitched at you anytime you jerk off?? let her have her fun and have it with her. make it something you do together n enjoy the spice bro. also...how the fuck did u go months without sex? i hope she was blowing u constantly...my gitl n i uck on average 3-5 times a day n i know if that isnt the case she gets crazy antsy n so do i...oo n enjoy the tight pussy, that sir, is a good thing.

The thing is, you mention dildos in your post and say that there is gross content in your post. I assume dildos are gross for you. that should not be. This refers to insecurity.

Believe me I know the drill, as I have a GF with medical condition, so hardly any sex for me at the moment. And yes everything seems to be worse in this condition. I have never been jealous about past relationships and shit, her own games with herself etc. Now i am lets say a little bit more sensitive about that. Just a little bit. In other words when you can't have constant sex, you tend to overthink. That is not a good thing