Hey guys i've been hearing this as a rather big issue for people who were new to pua. They learn somethings, go out, high energy and what not. But then once they get the girlfriend they stop pua and stop going out like they did before and then go back to becoming a AFC again going back to there old traits. Now i've been noticing what they meant. At first I was a very complete Alpha male who didn't care what she thought of me or what she called me and had fun with and what not. Now it's more like, the more i begin to like her the more i start to care about how she feels about me and it's bothering cause i want to be the way i was before. also i find myself going with her doing stuff with because i enjoy being with her and she enjoys being with me. But i feel like i'm worried about somethings i didn't before (not cheating she's very loyal or even jealousy) It's more like i don't get the validation i want to receive like i did before and it bugs me (cause i feel like i want her to want me at all times). I feeling like being to dam NEEDY! and i know things begin to change within a relationship how we interact with each other. I just want to know should i stay in and deny her sometimes to hang out to hang out with friends or do other stuff as well. The relationship isn't in danger at all i'm just starting to see some things early on that i would like to try to fix before it gets worst.

I had/have a similar problem with relationships. Don't spend ALL your time with her, it's really tempting to, but you shouldn't.

Spend time with your friends, encourage her to see hers. You want to maintain some level of mystery instead of being up in her grill 24/7.

Also, start exercising a lot and lift weights, this has done wonders for me, it gives me something else to focus on and it makes you feel more confident and in control.

It sounds like you need to address your inner game as well, but there are people more knowledgeable than me on that subject here. I sometimes get relationship based anxiety, but learning to recognise when it's happening and controlling it is the first step.

This awareness is key man.

I used to get a girlfriend, sleep with them a bunch and then all of a sudden feel like I wanted to have a kid and a family with them. So i'd go on trying to get the girl pregnant; thinking that because this is what I'm "feeling" that this is what I should do.

Later on in life I was doing some research and I discovered that when you begin sleeping with a girl without protection your body begins to release chemicals that make you want to reproduce with this person. Its our biological natures way of making sure man begins to reproduce.

So the truth was; I didn't actually want to have a child with this women, my body was just producing chemicals that made me feel this way.

I say this to say.. The more sex we have with a woman, the more they absorb our semen. When a woman absorbs to much "Semen" or a man loses too much semen. He will begin to weaken. He will become more woman like " Emotional" . And as a result of the woman taking on the male semen she will become more masculine like.

Do some research on injaculation.. Learn to have sex without loses your semen(vital life fluid. What makes you a man) and the strength to be assertive in your relationship will slowly return.

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The whole purpose of semen is to convey your genetic material to combine with the genetic material of your partner and create new life, in fact, seminal fluid is purely to protect the sperm and enable them to swim. You do not begin to come more feminine through losing it (it is constantly replenished) and if women "absorb" semen they don't become masculine. Testosterone is what causes a man to be "manly" and a woman will not gain testosterone through seminal fluid.

As for your body releasing chemicals when you have sex without protection... How is it any different to your body than having protected sex? We're not evolutionary wired to trigger the release of certain chemicals in the absence of condoms.

Apologies if I cause any offence, but that's pseudo-scientific nonsense.

None taken man. Its all love here

But are you going to answer his question or just attempt to debunk my argument? Which I still believe in by the way.

Sperm is cerebral spinal fluid; sure your body makes more, but when you're low on it - you're low until you make more. Which results in the things I spoke of.

I'm not a scientist, but this is what I believe and this is what has worked for me. I've had my share of relationships and this is just what I've experienced.

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What works for you, does not necessarily work for others. It is a question of accepting or rejecting a theory - an opinion.

Even though i respect it as a theory, I am afraid that it still is an offtopic in this thread, or it was not something op expecting. Or I just wasn't able to relate to it

First of all, everything you are going through is perfectly normal and HEALTHY. Intimacy can only be built through vulnerability. It is a scary, challenging process which is why true love and connection isn't so easy. If being alpha male means you have a complete disregard for women's emotions then I hope to never be alpha. It might be fun when you're young to treat women like a piece of meat, however this type of perspective can cause very serious emotional issues in the future when you're ready to settle down.

I'd suggest continuing your path of being vulnerable with her while also continuing pursuing your own passions. Take action on the things in your life that create self-esteem and you may find yourself living a wonderful life with a supportive, loving woman by your side. That's what life is all about...

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so basically it's similiar to having masterbated to much you start to loosing testosterone which makes you less masculine it works the same as having sex? i've never had the urge to impregranet my girl in anyway. I don't really want that to happen right now or at all. I just notice i've started to care a little much than i'd like. I began to whatch rsd and other pua stuff. But i think it's my life style and i notice i've been pretty available lately as well. I think i just need to go and do more stuff like a i did before and become more alpha go out partying and clubbing again.