Girl has never asked for or brought up cunnilingus (or fingering her), but has given me plenty of bjs, takes anal, BDSMy stuff, etc. and always does what I want in bed.

This is as I want it. I'd prefer not to bring up or do fingering or cunnilingus, b/c I just don't like it and b/c I believe this helps maintain frame of me as the dominant one and things being about my pleasure. I give her plenty of powerful orgasms during vaginal and anal anyway.

If she does bring up cunnilingus/fingering (for example after seeing it in a movie we are watching together), what's a good way to deflect it? Tell her straight up I don't like and I don't think she'd like it better than vaginal anyway, or tease/joke/redirect/reframe it away, something else?

If I did do it, what's the best way to maintain frame while doing it? Tie her down (we do this already), act like I'm doing it cuz I want to, etc?

1. Going down on her doesn't make you submissive.

2. Sex should be more about her pleasure. You always get your orgasm.

How do people have girlfriends and NOT go down on them?

Well, if she's already having lots of vaginal orgasms as you say, then there's really no need to eat her pussy. Simply say, "I don't like it."

I eat pussy for the simple reason that girls' vaginal orgasms tend to come faster when you eat their pussies first. Multiple consecutive vaginal orgasms become easy as pie once you get girls having 2 or 3 clitoral orgasms from oral sex.

It's a matter of preference. If you don't like it, don't do it. But for me, I do it because girls become very obedient and submissive after you have given them their first multiple consecutive orgasms. You can actually say, "Sit. Jump. Fetch. Play dead." and girls will be happily doing these things for you provided that you've just given them the best fuck of their lives.

_________________
Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

Some girls just don't like it. My gf is quite strict about that. I mean we tried and shit, including the honeymoon phase where sex was awesome but she simply never liked that.

Of course, it is probably because she never experienced proper one and has some prejudice about that there was a time i did not like bj's. didn't take long / many tries to start liking them. She is stubborn i guess

IMO- If she asks just give it to her anyway. Tell her that you dont like it but you would do it for her. That way you score more

My wife is a nurse and stares at vaginas all day. She thinks they are disgusting. For the longest time, there was no oral ever for us. Somehow, she got over it on her own. She tells me she wants me to eat her pussy all the time now, and when I am doing it says she was so fucking stupid for not wanting it before. It turns me on when she asks for it, so I do it. I can't say I'd choose to do it of my own accord, but I do it because I genuinely like getting her off.

What is it you don't like about it? If it's a taste or odor problem, that can be solvable. There is nothing that will turn a man on more than a woman who will do dirty, rotten, kinky shit, all for you, for no other reason than she wants to get you off. Give her the same thing, and life will be pretty good.

Just tell her your not into it...I personally pride myself on goin down and in no way see it as a submissive thing-thats crazy talk...it ups your value.
But to each his own,she should respect your dislikes and preferences.
Tell her you had a girl squirt in your face the first time and that's left you traumatized so its no good for you.