I had been with this girl for 2 years and a half when I left to study 6 months abroad. We decided to continue as a LDR as she was really decided. We saw each other a couple of times for a week until I returned. During my first weeks I was really absorbed in the new place and didnt contact her much..she threatened me to leave it if i continue to act like that as she was having a bad time. I didnt want to end it so I became more close and rediscovered my feeling for her.

I came back one month ago and everything seemed normal, although last months i felt like she was growing distant. She got to know a new bunch of friends with whom she went out etc, which I never got to know. But i know they went out at night with the boyfriend and guyfriends of one of her friends.

Last week she told me she doesnt know if she is in love anymore, she had been this last month trying to discover if everything would go back to normal but her feeling have not been the same. She told me aswell, after I pushed her with questions..that she was talking with another guy more than me..and that she might feel something, but she didnt feel anything if i didnt talk to her or i did. She didnt know if she wanted to continue or not so I told her lets have a nocontact week to think about it...

I ended the relationship the next day by telling her i already thought about it and its over..and that i didnt want to be friends.

I find myself having doubts sometimes... Did I do the right thing? i still have feelings and i would like to talk with her sometimes..maybe i still have hope..

As soon as she mentions feelings for another guy, you need to end it right away. There are billions of women out there.

Stop being afraid of ground zero. If you have nothing, you've got nothing to lose. Your ex GF wasn't that hot anyway, you can do better. And more importantly, you deserve better.

You are right.. Thank you Hunter.
Its just that I blocked her from chat just after I broke up with her. And even after I unblocked her she didn't even try to contact me... It might just be because I told her I didn't want to stay as friends...but if she wasn't so sure it just makes me think I did wrong.

Why did you block her then unblock her?

I blocked her to stop myself from answering right away.. Then when I knew I could control myself I unblocked her. Now Im just confused as she has not tried to contact, although I know she is really proud and at the same time she has another guy to think about.

You don't understand the "no contact" rule. You clearly cannot control yourself because you are writing about it on here. NC means NC.

You need to move on. Leave the girl alone. Then if (and only if) she contacts you first, you can consider whether you want to see her again. She will probably contact you in about 2-3 weeks just to make sure you are still obsessed with her. She will say something like "hey not heard from u in a while, r u ok??? miss you xxx" all while she is in bed with her new guy. You will then make the mistake of replying with, "I miss you too! xxx" then she will smile to herself and start ignoring you again.

Date other girls.... NOW!

I agree with everything Hunter said!

Go Sarging Dude! You'll probably pick up numbers no problem!

You did the right thing!

She doesn't love you anymore? Go find someone else. She's feeling something for another guy? Let her free so you did the right thing.
If she said that only to test you she doesn't deserve you.

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. You should be proud. You had the guts to tell her a very scary thing for many guys out there and that's the reason you deserve the very best.

Do not talk to her.In a few weeks she will contact you and trust me she will. That's the moment when you can get back with her, game her again (if you want that). Remember that you will fall back into a relationship in the exact point were you said stop. Think this and act in YOUR best interest! Exact same point. Listen to hunter, he gives great advice!

For the moment go out and have fun!

Its been around 10 days since I broke up with her and I haven't received anything. Im sarging and texting to other girls etc, find myself optimistic and Im having fun.

The problem is that I didnt get ANY answer when I broke up with her through a text, and this uncertainty..not knowing anything about what she thinks of breaking up makes me wonder a lot of times. Maybe now it is more important for me to discover what she thinks or she just doesnt care at all. I think im ready for a hard answer as Ive given up on the relationship. Ive thought about texting her: "Hey, we should meet one of these days to talk, i need to move on".

Btw she never said she didn't love me, she was just not sure what she wanted. As well she only mentioned that she was talking with another guy often, but she assured me that was not the cause and that they haven't done anything.

So u just sent her a farewell message and she did not bother to answer. Well as she said she does love you no more and she has feelings for another guy. In other words you've been politely dumped. as sad as it is. You go sarge bro and move on. Lost case unless she comes back to your town and take you out, which is not likely.

Take her silence as a strong message, and more importantly your closure.

You're having fun, you're unattached now continue on that path leaving this in the dust.

I know for many this may seem stupid but I am trying to get her back. Even tho she said she was not sure of what she felt for me when we broke up, before I left to study abroad for 6 months she was madly in love (said by her when we broke up. Because of this I blame distance as the factor that destroyed it.. and I think that if I stay in contact with her I can build attraction again.

I met with her two weeks after we broke up and we were really enjoying each other with laighs and teasing. I went no contact amd she didnt initiate, until yesterday i contacted her again and we texted quite a lot with more teasing, jokes and challenging each other talking about meeting up and what would happen if either of ua win the bet.

I havent talked to her since then. I feel im getting ioi's and we can work together as it was only distance what made things cold. Should I wait now to see if she contacts or talk to her again in a couple of daya to continue to build attraction?

Thank you guys.

Whatever was going on with the other guy didn't work out, but you want to blame distance. You're trying to avoid the truth in order to vaginalize your thinking.

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