So, been with my girlfriend 2 months now, was all going really well, she tells me she loves me etc.. the other night we fell out because I've never said it back to her, but she was fine the next day.

Lately she has got some promoting nightclub job which she thinks is really cool, I'm a few years older than her and can't be dealing with the party zone SPAM as I'm too busy with work. Up to now I have not been too bothered about her, she texts me 3:1, I have in my mind that my work is more important, and il see her when I have some free time. Not overly fussed, but i do like her and we get on really well.

Anyway, she has been going out with her work friends, and mentions one guy in particular. The other night he walked her home, and then tonight she went out with some friends, who she then left and text me saying she was with this guy and some other people from work.

I messaged back saying that she should have stayed with the others, and she said she was fine, so i replied, hmmm with some guy who likes getting into fights? Have a good night im off to sleep.

Anyway, before I wasn't too fussed at all, and I realise we are at different stages however I do like her, up to this promotion job it was fine. I need to play it more cool hey?

I think it just brings back a previous relationship with some girl who loved to party and she was banging half the country every night she went out. This girl I feel as though I can trust more, but I can't be dealing with fucking drama and shit at the moment, however, I do think shes a really nice girl.

I will just add as well, is it possible to talk to her about it? And say I don't want to hold her back, as I would rather finish on good terms than be fucked over in any way. I leave the country in 3 months for a while and we have decided that we will probably break up. She insists we are girlfriend/boyfriend, and she does seem to love me (although she refuses to suck me off), I can see if she wants to go out having fun and I dont want to stop her from enjoying it. But its a tricky one. Ideally I want to be with her for the time being. How can i play it ?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Read:
1) Sex God Method
2) The way of the superior man

- In that order ...
- They are free online if you search on google

Good luck and have fun,

Donston

Thanks man, I'm just feeling a bit too busy SPAM to read a book, i've read so much in the passed, just looking for a couple of reminders to help me out along with opinions.

I get the impression you like this girl, but only because of the possibility she lost interest.

3-1 is a little skewed. You can still make it 3-2 and not come off as desperate.

Don't bring up the guy. That's never a good idea. Also, if you're going to be leaving in a few months, it's probably best you don't get too attached.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Do what you have to do, and don't bother with "holding her back" bullshit. Why would that be holding back, from what? This radio silence about shady things leads nowhere. Your ex held YOU back, by lying and hooking around. You don't have to bring it up immediately. But to look more into the case. You have the right to know what "people" and what "guy", if she wants to be exclusive with you for now.