So I have a very serious question. Because I am in a very unique situation. But first let me give a brief background.

I have always been very intuitive and socially aware because I am very intelligent. I am not the best looking guy to be honest, but I am a sigma, or alpha male, which makes me attractive to the other sex but also gets my in trouble with other alphas a lot of the time. I understand social dynamics but I can't figure out what to do about this situation...

I met this girl and we started dating. I'm 27, she is 26. We met through work, and were in a relationship for 3 months.

Initially, all the right circumstances were in place...we met at a team night event. She was attracted to me, and kinda competitive, because another blonde gave me her number than night in front of her...social proof. I'll be honest...originally I didn't notice her. She came up to me, we hit it off.

However, her parents, friends, and home town are in San Diego. She travels back and forth every once and a while, and likes to go out to the club with her friends.

Now maybe I made a mistake in the relationship part of it, because I felt secure with who I am, so I don't mind her going out with her friends, but I know what other guys go to clubs for, and whether she wants to admit it or not, saying she would never or has never cheated, I know she goes to the club and probably likes the attraction from other guys.

She has gone to the club and drunk texted twice, the first time that she had got home ok. When I asked her how her night was she said they drank, danced with her girlfriends, and then went to the beach with a bunch of strangers. I didn't lose my cool. Played it cool. Don't think she did anything wrong. So let it go.

The second time she texted me some naughty pictures late at night. But I was passed out...my bad...didn't know she was going out with her friends.

Anyways, she texted me the next day apologizing, how she was drunk, how she went out partying (coke, took a molly), and blackouted when they got back to her apartment and has a languiree party with her girlfriends.

I confronted her about it and she said nothing happened at the club. And I asked her how she would remember if she was so gone and blacked out. She didn't have a good answer other than nothing happened or would ever happen.

Anyways, after 3 months I lost my position at work due to a disagreement with my boss. So I lost a lot of social status with her I think. And I was so stressed I lost control over my emotions.

I know I did a lot of things to turn her off...but I expected from our relationship she would stand by me. Looking back I see all the mistakes I made, and what I should have done...but I digress. I was more focused on conflict in business then on her...I let the attraction slip away just enough...for the following to happen.

Shortly after we broke up. 3 Days before Christmas. 3 Days later she texts me saying she still loves me and made a mistake and wants to get back together.

She was down to San Diego with her family for the holidays...and New Years she went out with her friends I guess and magically met this Guy...who She knows is the ONE.

But this guy from what she told me is "going to get divorced", which means still in a relationship...and she fell in love with him that night...and they have such a strong connection...yadda yadda.

Which leads me to believe he took advantage of the situation and gamed the shit out of her.

Now I believe she took it hook line and sinker and from everything I've learned and studied...

She acted on her emotions and now after the fact is trying to rationalize her actions.

I was reading a post at www . pickupguide . com / ourworld . htm and got pretty upset cause it pretty much reaffirmed what I already suspected happened. I know that you can seduce a woman into cheating by making her act on her emotions, using trance, nlp, etc...to make her act irrationally...

But I feel like explaining this to her would just not work...be impossible...she'd never by it...or admit it..and then I'd be looking like the crazy bf...who manipulated her...even though I didn't...our relationship developed naturally...

Which leads me to the question of...How do you stop another guy from seducing your girl?
Did I make a mistake? Should I have just forbid her from going to the clubs without me in the first place or to the club ever?

How do you stop this from happening in the future? I'm not so much worried about her as how to prevent this or how to learn from my mistakes?

I really did not want to manipulate her, because she had a bunch of bad experiences before and I was trying to show her how to have a happy and healthy relationship cause I really could have seen a strong future between us (which I should have just listened to my guy and gave her what she needed instead of what she said she wanted...cardinal mistake).

So how do you defend against other PUAs exp if you are not there? Or protect your relationship with a woman?

I have no idea about this but think trust is more effected to Protect Relationship w/ GF/Defend Against other PUA.

If a girl is going to cheat on you, she is going to cheat on you whether you're the most laidback guy in the world or you're an emotionally abusive control freak.

Do your best to prevent it by being the best man you can be, not lapsing into neediness and recognising when you're in danger of doing so. Fuck her good and hard and fuck her anywhere at any time, go down on her, make her cumming your duty. Show her love when she deserves it and never compromise your own beliefs just to please her. Be comfortable in your reality and remember that you are the prize and she is just a part of your awesome life, not what makes your life awesome.

These are some of the points that are helping me to improve, I used to be needy as hell and I have a lot of experience of screwing up relationships.

If after all that she still cheats? Then she's a bad egg.

However, not to judge or impeach upon anyone's lifestyle, but if she is 26 and still partying all the time and doing cocaine, then you better make sure she isn't your only option because you don't wanna be putting a ring on her finger for some time.

Rough Operator said it all.

I just posted to say that, in my opinion, that's the best advice you can get.

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As Woody Allen said, the heart wants what it wants. You can't fully cheat-proof a relationship. What you can, however, do is be the best you can be and ALSO LOOK FOR WOMEN YOU FEEL YOU CAN TRUST.

She just looks like a bit immature. Parties and coke, then hitting another guy right away - come on, these kind of girls like a fancy life, that would have worked you if you were to party with her. Not a girlfriend material unless you really really can hook them up so they think you are the ONE(oh yeah girls like that word) - so then they might change so you trust them. Happened to me that way as I was on the other side.

She loves you but in a few days she founds prince charming and fucks the crap out of her.
You lost your job. She likes to party and do coke.
You are 27 and she is 26. No woman in her right mind would party that hard unless she's a slut or a gold digger.
Loose her. You deserve better. Maybe she is a perfect 10, but she's not a keeper.

You can not defend from other PUAs if you are not there to cockblock them. Think about your situation. Why would you fight for her? A PUA can steal a girl from someone only if the girl really wants that.

In my very own opinion she humiliated you and she doesn't deserve you anymore

As regards to "how can you prevent her from cheating/how can i stop this from happening in the first place" the answer is you cant... you cant control anyone but yourself.

huge red flags are the partying and drugs. thats something again you cannot control... and u have to ask yourself, is that something I as the alpha am willing to allow in my own life?

Next her... your first impression of her was that you barley noticed her.... first impressions tell a lot.

**dont get caught up on the "omg where did i do wrong how could she do this too me... im so smart i know the game i study this shit blah blah bullshit either... iv done it and it was a waste of time and thinking about someone who is no longer in my life. Its one thing to learn from this, but its another things to keep talking/thinking about it over and over and over and not moving on. You will be fine... like you said u know the social dynamics, you are smart, and u have a lot of value. If she really found her "ONE" you should honestly be happy for her and let her go.... it only means there is BETTER FOR YOU out there.

Duke