Everything my gf does basically makes me jealous(not on purpose) or makes me feel like she doesnt care/there is someone else.We have been together almost 2 years.There is no reason for me to not trust her,she has never broken my trust or done anything to make me question her ethics. She doesnt text guys constantly.hang all over them or anything like that.However,She has alot of guy friends and i dont think ill ever get used to that.Looks wise she is outta my league so i think thats a big problem of mine too.

We dont see each other a whole lot its 2 days a week maximum on a good week.We both work midday jobs.I work til about 10 pm.She is a bartender(god i hate this so much) so gets home from anytime from 2am -4am depending on business. She also has a kid so i come second to him and i am fine with that.Looks wise she is probly a 9 and im a 7 on a good day haha

Now that some background is established here are a few problems areas i have been getting jealous in:
-She is out alot because she is a bartender and she frequents the place when shes off.
-Takes forever to respond to texts or return calls.Usually blames this on work or spending time with her son.Both valid excuses but why cant i come first for a change???
-She has been VERY unaffectionate lately,all i get is lousy kisses.This is a big change from our normal routine
-She took a pic with a mutual friend tonight and honestly made me so jealous and is what led me to post this.I know nothing is going on with them and nothing ever will but something in my brain just sets me off.

I feel like the tables have turned in our relationship.I used to be the one who didnt put much effort into it,made excuses to do other shit.She was the one accusing me of flirting with too many people,texting me all day calling too much etc.Now i am exactly like she was and im realizing this.Im turning into a psycho lol someone help me please

I am so paranoid and it makes me sick.I have been cheated on in the past and believe this is the reason im like this(basically like a jealous teenager the last few weeks).I always just think she is out to get with someone else or if shes not talking to me there is someone else.Like why am i second fiddle?I just feel like shes not paying enough attention to me lately and that she can try harder or show some more love

Any tips or advice would be fucking great ,thanks

if a girl seems to been distancing herself you have to allow that to happen.

to set it metaphorically, her behavior is fire, and you are the oxygen. If you keep feeding oxygen (jealousy, calling too much, ect...) you feed the fire and she gets worse and worse. If you starve the fire by withdrawing some attention and jealousy (allowing her to call you and make plans and stuff) the fire will starve and your problem will be solved.

one of two things will happen.

1. she realizes that you don't live on her whim and she will be more attracted (preferred alternative)
2. she will allow the relationship to fizzle out and you will be able to bang girls who are giving more to you.

but besides this whenever you see her try and do something really fun and out of the ordinary and show her a good time.
also bang her really well

ive been in this position myself and it really sucks.
on a side note, dont call yourself a 7. you are whatever number you decide to be. nobody else can set that number for you. your a 10 in your own reality, act like it and people will respond to that.

hope this helps, girls are pretty gay sometimes

keep your mind in good health, work out, read, hang with friends, meet new girls etc.

This has been necro'd, the thread was posted in 2012.

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