Hey guys, this is my first post on here and it's going to be a long one but I need any and all advice that I can get. I have been reading countless threads on these forums and have been rather successful so far but am in a situation now that I have no idea how to comprehend. The first few paragraphs are just background info so if you cant be bothered reading just skip the first few paragraphs.

I was a hip-hop dancer and I joined a Bollywood dancing performance last July to help a friend out and the girl that was my partner (HB8) I ended up K and F closing a week after our final performance in september.
Initially the attraction from her was freakishly high. I've never had a girl that was this attracted to me before but this was the best 'game' I've used on a girl outside of a random pickup and I presume being the lead dancer and choreographer alongside her boosted my 'alpha' status.

I made it clear that we were non-exclusive initally. However she refused to see anyone else as this was the first time she had been physical with a guy outside of a relationship (She's from India, currently living in Australia but still has some cultural influences from there) and as such deemed it inappropriate and over time, we ended up dating exclusively. Due to a visa issue, she had to unexpectedly leave the country for an indefinite amount of time and I went overseas for a holiday for 6 weeks. It was indefinite if she would return so we planned to keep in contact.

Due to previously being in a LDR, I unexpectedly treated this girl as a LDR even though I was seeing other girls. We ended up getting extremely close even though we were apart and by co-incidence, she was returning to Australia the day before I got back from holiday.



That was 2 weeks ago and since then, the first few days involved extremely high levels of attraction and in general. Then she started to have extreme mood swings just before we went to sleep at night. After a great day together, just before falling asleep she would turn into a completely b**ch and have a mood swing. However I couldn't just get up and leave as I didn't drive so I played indifferent and turned the tables onto how she was stressed about work and needed to calm down. For the first time since we started seeing each other again she became extremely cold and distant after a random mood swing last Tuesday and was distant up until we met on Saturday. Again, she was initially extremely close and started being sexual then shut down and went cold again.

Sunday morning I had enough and called her out on it and told her that her behavior had to stop or we would not work. After which she opened up and explained to me why she had been so cold and distant.

Her family in India is pressuring her to get arranged married by the end of this year and as such, she has to meet 'suitable' guys in Australia whose details her family has sent to her. The plan is for her to meet them, date and get to know one of them if she likes them for 6 months to a year and marry them. WTF?!!

She said that the reason she has been cold and distant is coz technically we arent boyfriend and girlfriend but she is madly in love with me and can't deal with the idea of seeing these people while still attached to me so she was trying to push me away so that I would be less upset (Women Logic).
Her mum passed away when she was younger and her Dad is getting constantly harassed by all her relatives due to her not being married and she is being harassed to get married. She hates the idea of it but feels obligated as she feels sympathy for her father and as such, feels obliged to please him.
After telling me this and being distant, I did what the forums said about breaking up and just maintained composure but as the conversation continued, she suddenly broke down crying. It was then that she explained that she was pushing me away because she couldn't bear the idea of us ending it and doesn't want it to end but doesn't know what else to do and started pleading that we stay close even if this doesn't work out between us as she can't handle it. She wanted to end it as she hated the idea of seeing anyone else while seeing me at the same time, she finds that extremely immoral and refuses to do that so its either me or the arranged marriage.

This gradually turned extremely romantic and became an entire day filled with the strongest emotional connection I have ever had in my life which ended up with us sleeping together, me staying the night. I honestly had no idea how intense it could get. Currently she's trying to decide if she goes through with her families request or refuse it and continue on with us.

My question is what do I do? My frustration is that I'm not getting rejected coz she isn't attracted but refused coz she is in a screwed up situation. I would love to just get rejected coz it didn't work out and easily move on from there. What I was considering is to give her a direct ultimatum which is to tell her that if she goes through with this, I can't maintain a friendship with her as I don't think I would want to deal with the repercussions of that and if she decides to not go through with it and speak to her family, I will be in an actual relationship with her. After saying which I'll just go NC for a few days to give her space to sort out her thoughts and what she wants to do.

Any opinions on this? I'm extremely upset coz its a messed up situation but I have no idea how to comprehend it. I feel bad for the girl yet its extremely frustrating for me to be caught up in all of it as well.
I'm not ready for marriage as of yet but I definitely want to keep seeing her to see where this will lead.