Last night me and my gf went out drinking came home had great sex as always. I went too bed and she said she's not sleepy and will be to bed soon. I wake up at 3:30am and found her sleeping in spare bed, asked her why she in there and she admited that she went thru my phone and found where id been visiting this site. She was pissed and saying, she knew i was doing this and that and so on and so on.
Any advice on how too handle this situation?

Were you into PU when you met her or is it something you took up after you got with her?

1. Say you were curious because a friend kept going on about it.

2. Fess up and tell her you were into it before you met her, that it gave you the chance to meet her.

Say that it's a forum dedicated to male self improvement, focusing primarily on dating as it is an aspect of many men's lives that makes them feel emasculated and worthless and the mainstream advice for men sucks. But you couldn't tell her about it because women always misconstrue it and assume its about being fake and manipulating girls. Also tell her that yes, it can breed negative or misogynistic attitudes but you're mature enough to be a real man and you wanted to be the best man you could be whilst you're with her.

Or something.

But seriously, saintdogg's girlfriend, if you're reading this right now whilst he's asleep, everything I said above is actually true and not just me giving him an alibi. Secondly, put his phone away, that seriously isn't cool!

What Rough Operator said. Honesty is the best solution here.

The more interesting concern to me, is why was she going through your phone while you're asleep?

Thanks guys

I would tell her what RO said.

Then I would ask her who the f... she thinks she is to check my phone without consent.

Yea, that WONT cause a fight...

You'd likely be much better served asking this:

"Are you feeling uneasy because your need for security is being unmet right now?" Empathize with her for a bit, and only WHEN you feel the two of you are authentically connected again, ask the question "I'd like to help you put some ease to your insecure feelings, how can I help?"


Now, you tell me which way do you think will give you the response you're looking for and help build the relationship?